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Right girls, here goes. I slept with my boyfriend for th first time 4 years ago, and it wasn't until recently i wondered if i had a problem (or whether the bloke did). Not long after we split up, (still mates now like or we wouldn't have had this conversation) he said to me, that in the 4 years we were together he doesn't remember making me orgasm sexually, only orally. I thought about it and i don't think he did. My present bloke said sort of the same thing.
I know when i had me lst smear the burse said i'm one of these women who are, how do i put it, deep inside i suppose, so could that be why, are they not hitting the mark so to speak.
Is there anybody out there having the same problems?
It doesn't really bother me, i enjoy sex, but i don't want my partner feeling that i'm not. Don't want to start faking it!!!!!
I know when i had me lst smear the burse said i'm one of these women who are, how do i put it, deep inside i suppose, so could that be why, are they not hitting the mark so to speak.
Is there anybody out there having the same problems?
It doesn't really bother me, i enjoy sex, but i don't want my partner feeling that i'm not. Don't want to start faking it!!!!!
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The deep business,I honestly dont think thats a problem.Not everyone has 'g-spot',some find it a turn on and some just arent effected by it.
To solve yr problem I suppose is just have lots of foreplay before hand and lots of kissing at yr weak spots like yr breasts,neck,ears-wherever yrs are anyway.
I think what I've wrote is right anyway,I read it somewhere and also personal experience although I haven't had sex but I do get really turned on through foreplay and kissing and when I'm turned on and he inserts his fingers(sorry,no nice way of saying it)it is so great.
Anyway,enough said.Happy orgasms
Well, i certainly don't think u shud start fakin it, just explain 2 the guy that u enjoy it, even if u don't orgasm! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
If the sky that we look upon
should tumble and fall
or the mountains should crumble in the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry,
No, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand
Stand by me
i have read that really penetration doesn't always make a woman come, usually orals do. it's just so hard to hit the mark.
i wouldn't worry if i were you and no point in faking it. just tell the truth and he'll be thankful for it. tell him it's not his sexual performance as some guys are real sensitive about it...
at least there's always foreplays!! LOL
children in the front causes accidents...accidents in the back causes children...
hmm maybe i just need more practice. I WANT TO GIVE HER AN ORGASM DAMN IT!!
mandy, dont worry about it, im exactly the same. when i was with my ex i didnt have one orgasm through having sex, i had them through different forms of foreplay though, but never during sex, although i did enjoy it. however i was very surprised to find that i can actually have an orgasm through penetrative sex which was kinda cool <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
but what cheeky said is exactly right, i dont think its possible to have an orgasm without the clitoris being stimulated, at least not for most women (the other are lucky). but it IS possible for it to be stimulated during sex, just not that easily. you can try different positions and see if that makes any difference, instead ofjust missionary where youre not likely to have an orgasm from my experience.
i think the best thing is to talk to your partner about it like has been said already and how its nothign to do with his technique, just that you have difficulty reaching orgasm during sex and you like foreplay to enable you to have them, or somethign like that anyway. but make sure you reassure him that you enjoy it anyway! hehe
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
ask her if she likes it or not, its the only way u'll eva know.
If the sky that we look upon
should tumble and fall
or the mountains should crumble in the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry,
No, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand
Stand by me
A good way for him to hit the spot is for u to be on ur back and then bring ur knees to ur chest.I know it doesnt look to elegant but its worth it!! Get him to tense his muscules as well.
Have a go and happy orgasms!!
I'd take the stars out the sky for you,
There's nothing in this world i wouldnt do,
If i could be your girl...