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Every once in a while I get sick of looking like crap. Usually after repeated weeks of my fiance, sadly the only person I really hang out with, teling me how crappy I always look. And I do. 99% of all my clothes are jeans and t-shirts. The shirts aren't bad looking but they are all solid coloured. Slightly fitted, girl shirts or alot of just baggy looking things. My feet are wide and any shoes that arent sneakers hurt my feet, though i love sneakers they aren't always cute, though I do get some cool ones. I'm lazy and I hate my hair so I just always tie it back. And probably the biggest thing, nearly everything I see, especially on here and just magazines are fucking ugly and I'd never wear it. My make up is very plain too. Very light blush, brown eyeliner brown mascara neutral eyeshadow, the only thing going for me is my lipgloss. What I need is help. But I flat out dont look good. The best way to describe me is disshelved. Disshelved sloppy and ugly.
I'm bad at putting on make up so when I do try stuff it turns out like crap and I'm extremly too poor to just go out and buy new clothes. Even cheap new clothes. I cannot afford it.
I'm bad at putting on make up so when I do try stuff it turns out like crap and I'm extremly too poor to just go out and buy new clothes. Even cheap new clothes. I cannot afford it.
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what i do now is save up and every month by a couple of things.
i also hate most of the clothes that high street shops sell, and i sympathise with you living in the states, all the clothes seem preppy/skanky, which i hate...but if you wad through the junk you can usually find some nice stuff.
Just a suggestion, why dont you have a look in forever21 (if you have one nearby) they have a large selection of clothes which are very VERY reasonable
ETA: Always ALWAYS ALWAYS shop in sales!
Well first off, why do you think it's alright for your fiance to tell you you look crappy? :mad:
We all go through stages of feeling like shit, I've just started uni and every other girl is a fabulous looking creature wearing Ambercrombie and Tommy Hilfigger, but that doesn't mean I can't afford to look decent. Am I going to stop buying food to buy £60 t shirts just to please others? :no:
Do you have a part time job? There has to be affordable shopping centres near you, book an appointment with a fashion consultant (these are normally free of charge) and ask them to pick out some items of clothing you think you'd feel comfortable wearing.
As for make up, I sort of see this as armour against the world. I could have the worst break out in the history of teenage horror stories but if I stick on decent make up (which can be pricey, but brands like MAC and Bobbi Brown are worth it) then I don't feel so hideously troll like.
It sounds to me like you just don't know how to go about getting some self confidence. The clothes shouldnt make the person, but they do give off a non verbal impression about your personality. Start with little things at a time, buy a hair magazine or look online - there has to be shit loads of websites on hair styles, pick one you like and bring it to your hairdresser.
In time you'll find a happier person will probably attract others, so you won't only be left with your sensitive fiance for company.
Hope that helped a bit.
I agree with scytherchick saying your bf shouldnt be telling you that you look crap. Thats not very nice.
You have to feel comfortable in what you wear otherwise whats the point?
I feel that way too, but you can be comfortable and still look better than a psychotic bag lady.
And yes, I do have a job, however I only make 1600 a month. I have bills and I owe my parents and I have a vacation coming up I really need a new car. I really dont have an extra penny for clothes.
Bout the hair - why don't you get highlights? They make an amazing difference, even if you're only shoving your hair into a ponytail.
Oh I hate highlights. But I could always try a tempory, right? My hair is dark red/brown, what color?
1600 a month is a hell of a lot of money to take home a month. I agree with the others about your boyfriend. A few new accessories sounds like a good idea. Maybe a belt or some earrings? They can change an outfit
you are correct
i can't do that, with my nicer clothes i tend to think oooh no lucy, can't wear that today might need to wear it tomorrow! i seem to forget that they can be washed.
lmao i'm totally the same, i think oh yes i like that top, but no it's nice why waste it on today! And then of course i never end up wearing it
...so i just end up wearing the same old.
my hair was extremely damaged from straightening, so I had about 3" cut off and a full head of highlights. didn't damage my hair too much, seeing as I'd had all the split ends chopped off, and it meant no more straightening as my hair finally looked nice when put up, whether fancily curled or just in a bun. so my hairs getting a chance to grow and relax
Clothes-Tee-shirts and jeans are fine thats what everyone wears.If you want to brighten them up,get one or two jackets/jumpers that you can wear with almost everything(eg-a sequinny bolero usually goes the trick for me!)Also nice scarves,brooches,etc can make a big,yet inexpensive difference.The personel shopper is a good idea too!Anything free take it!
hair-If its damaged it needs to be cut.Talk to your hairdresser about potential colours to dye it,and start to do a weekly/bi-weekly intense condition.When its get a bit repaired consider investing in a straightener(not to use everyday though!)also if your hair is wavy you can probably curl it-curlers and moose are very cheap and can transform a look!
makeup-since you dopn't wear much,I'm assuming you have good skin.If its less then perfect,get a good foundation,its definately worth it.MAC is brill.Treat youself to a makeover in MAC,or somewhere similer.They're free,and can really help when choosing new colours to try,and learing how to apply correctly.Also red lipstick can work miracles in the right shade-and theres one for everyone!Talk to a make-up artist to find one that suits you!
You need to start believing in youself and stop listening to your crappy boyfriend.Its obvious he's completely destroyed your confidence(sorry,I don't want to sound mean!)If he loved you he wouldn't say you look horrible.I doubt HE'S perfect!Start to rebuild your confidence,maybe take up a class(like painting or cooking-whatever) so you meet new people,and consider a self-help book!Also,If you're changing your look,make sure its for you and not for him!Best of luck!