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right..... help me out plz guys, this is the deal...my man wont give me none!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! im 18, jus started seein this guy whos 21, - i know hes no virgin or ne thin like that, hes more experienced than me, dats y i dont know what the problem is, when were alone an we just kissing and stuff ill try an take it a bit further an theres always an excuse!, its not like its only happened once its alllllll the time, like the otha night we were in his bedroom after we'd been out clubbin he was all over me , touchin me n kissin ma neck n then he sort of pushed me away n was like it aint even as if he got nefin 2 be nervous about, hes slept with loads of girls before he met me an he definatly aint got no size problems like, i ask him if theres a problem an hes like " what u on about"? "chill out babes" i was beginin 2 fink its cos he didnt like me or somethin but he sais he wants 2 be wiv me an he phones me like ALLLL the time, my friends cant help me theyr jus like "cheat on him" ?? i cant do that i luvs him loadsss but it jus soooo frustratin cos i want him so badly ..... he gets moody when i mention it WHATS HIS PROBLEM?? 6 months and NOTHING! even if he was going behind my back ( i hope not) surely sumfink still would hav happened by now? wha do i do gyals an bwoys?? xx
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And you wonder why he doesn't want to shag you?
You haven't got bad grammer or spelling and you've already said you can't be arsed to use the correct language - using text talk is plain lazyness. You know you don't spell 'your', 'ya'. :yeees: And I don't think I've ever been a 'gyal' .
In response to your question though, one of my friends a while back, had a very experienced new boyfriend, who also wouldn't have sex with her. His reasoning was that he was serious about her. They led up to everything but sex - he said he wanted to take their time as he really wanted to be with her and so didn't need to hurry. The other girls had been a bundle of sexual flings and one night stands. Maybe, he's not as experienced as he's made out, maybe he thinks more seriously of you then the others. Maybe approaching it as a problem, makes him feel that you really just want HIM for sex...and so by not giving you it, he's trying to show you that he's not just about sex...that this is more than that.
Yeh thats what i meant but you put it alot better ;x
Plucked from the good manners guide - I'm really sorry I don't understand your last sentance. Please please, if you really want help - TAKE HEED!
Text talk
There are reasons why text talk isn't the greatest way to communicate on these boards:
1. There is no word limit, so you don't need to shorten words, although the odd u and 2 are allowed
2. It may be faster for you to type, but it takes much longer to read, and the lack of punctuation also makes your posts hard to decipher. It puts people off responding.
3. Text talk makes you look stupid and illiterate, sad but true. Board users will also assume that if you can't be bothered to write properly, why should they bother to try and help you.
4. The search - if you write normally, the key words will be picked up when doing a search, helping you and others. One of the main reasons for our search not being as good as it could be is the use of text talk.
thank you for your help though
Thank you - honestly, I'm not always mean - I can't even type in text talk on my mobile very well - my credit shows this!
And, from what I've deciphered - it's good that cheating isn't in your nature, and it wouldn't resolve the matter in hand - it would just hurt someone you care for, just over sex. I didn't have sex with my ex till 9 months in, and the current till 6 months in. The first cause of my own choice, and the second not through lack of trying to encourage nookie to happen. If you really care for the guy, then let the relationship get deeper maybe?
The secret of a good relationship is to talk through your problems though, and take your time.