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moving your relationship on to the next level...
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ok, here's the deal. i feel like me+my b.f's relationship is ready to move on a step+has been for a long while. I really feel like id love to get a place with him. We've discussed this, and he totally agrees. We've been together just over 2yrs BTW.
BUT (yeah, there's always aproblem aint there) im at uni for the next 2 yrs, so obviously we cant afford to rent/buy a place!!!!
It's really frustrating me+making me feel like im stuck in a rut in a stale relationship!!
Any advice...i think i just needed a good winge!
Thanx
BUT (yeah, there's always aproblem aint there) im at uni for the next 2 yrs, so obviously we cant afford to rent/buy a place!!!!
It's really frustrating me+making me feel like im stuck in a rut in a stale relationship!!
Any advice...i think i just needed a good winge!
Thanx
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I've been with my bf just over a year and we've talked about it and would realy love to move in together, but uni is, again, getting in the way. He's currently on his placement year, then has two more years at uni, plus a summer placement in between those. Then when he (finally!) graduates, he's moving back to where he is on his placement! The eventual plan is that I move there with him then, when he starts work properly, but it's already dragging and I want to be there NOW!
Doesn't help that a lot of my friend's boyfriends are slightly older and therefore have been in jobs years and they're all getting engaged and making plans to move in together, buy houses and plan weddings! Soooo frustrating when you know you and your partner want to be together for life (yadda yadda yadda!) but can't make all these plans your friends are doing because of damn uni!
I can guarentee it will be the biggest mistake youl ever make if you do.
some people seem to think that they should be together for a certain amount of time, and then if you don't make the 'next step', there's something wrong.
i always get comments from the older members of my family, cause i've been living with my bloke for about two and a half years, and they think that there's something wrong, cause we have no immediate plans either to get married, or to have babies. but it's not. i'm quite happy just bumbling along with him, wherever that bumble may take me.
I really doubt it, moving in with someone isn't always what you expect, plus you learn all those annoying habits they have which if things are already stale are gonna make things even worse. I suggest you work on making things better between you both.
if you think it's like that now, wait until you're having arguments about who does the washing up, and having to have words about him leaving wet towels on the bed...