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My blokes revealed his kinkier side

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
...and as it was by phone I was quite pleased as I am sure the look on my face would have killed his desires! I'm not saying I'm appalled or anything but more so surprised over what he said. I am quite willing to do these things and more than happy to experiment, I always have been but its just a shock as normally a guy waits until he's about to attempt to do something rather than blurt it out-guess this means new man is pretty comfortable with himself.

I'm not gonna bluert all his dark pleasures BUT two things...


guys and vibrators-he knows all about my rabbit and told me he wants it in him while he is er, in me. Ok I know a vibe is good but thought the rabbit would be too big and pink for guys to like?! I have a much smaller lil mini dolphin thing from hustler i would think would be better!! Less er painful?!

Secondly... this was one that surprised me most-er, he says he likes his cum and it is beneficial-and guys who do drink their own jiz are more fertile *insert random health benefit* etc. I kinda said oh right cool. But I just thought huh is this true or is he pulling my leg?!

man I picked a live one here, wheres all my missionary only men gone?! I never had to worry about them I was always more outgoing in the bedroom department!


Also I am more sub and I wanna tell him this but how do I bring that up in the conversation?!

many questions please forgive me its been like 18 months since my last "real" sex!!!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    are you sure he's being serious? and how long is it into the relationship? if it's not very long, well..fair play to him for telling you what he wants so soon and trusting you!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    so your man wants a dildo up his arse and drinks his own cum?

    Personally, that would scare me off, but if you dont mind it then why not. u never know til u try!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol now I made him sound gay!! There are other things too that are less er likely to make him sound quite so gay...


    I haven't known him long at all in relationship terms!! Thats why i was er shocked!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    :eek2: each to their own, im semi ok with the first one but the second one...... ive never heard of any non-made-up health benefits to drinking cum.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The second-yeh thats the one I was weird about-Id do a search to see if the american research team he mentioned is real!-but I'd be rather worried what I'd come up with (and dad has the parental control on anyway, surprised it let me on here!)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Gross. Though having said that my mate freely admits to drinking her own urine during sex games as well as golden showers. Now, i'm fairly open minded and a little kinky, but all this would have me running a mile!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Neither of his 'likes' actually cause any pain or discomfort to you and are really quite harmless if not slightly bizarre. Why not pander to him? It won't hurt you and will give him loads of pleasure.

    In the end one must admire how brave he was to raise these issues with you ... not many men would admit to that. Rather than him sounding gay, it sounds like he is comfortable in his heterosexual skin. :thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It is full of calories and nutrition - thats what the sperm live on as they make their journey to the egg. I still wouldn't drink it though. My ex girlfriend used to talk about the 'health benefits' of the old population paste when out with my mates and their girls- hence the new term for sperm amongst my mates became yakult (the friendly bacteria) which my best friend coined!!!!!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Manickev-I so am gonna use that now!


    I was chatting last night and he actually said I bet you think I'm well sick now, I said no, I told him why and then said perhaps we could start with the dolphin and explained why. I'm worried it'll get stuck and I;ll end up taking him to hospital!! hehe

    Teagan-ta, yes, thats a good point!

    He's been less sex mad today on the text messages which is good, more romantic-well until he quoted the flippin "the calling" song lyrics to me *shudders* now thats scary... :shocking:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would sugest getting him his own vibe for anal use. The rabbit would be a bit too big but the dolphin would get sucked up there and then there would be a really embarassing trip to a+e
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Before anything - I would suggest he wipes his arse on "The Calling" lyrics first!!!! lol

    Only kidding. Think the best way to approach here is as for any situation - do only what you're comfortable with - if you don't want to do anything for whatever reason - he should be understanding with that - if not - then he is being a bit selfish!! (God I sound like my mum)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oooo! Kinky! Sounds like good fun. :naughty: I'd say he should get his own Rampant Rabbit for himself though, or a more regular vibrating butt plug (you could get one and surprise him with it one day). ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    youre right about being careful with vibrators designed for vaginas. Vaginas stop after a short distance, so things dont get lost, but up the bottom, it goes on for miles and anything you stick up there that is either not attached to something (ie a willy is attached to the body) or has a much larger base, so wont accidently slip inside if it slips out of your hand (its likely to be lubricated).
    There are loads of specialist bottom toys designed for the purpose, and at least you wont have to worry about them getting mixed up with yours.

    http://www.prowlerdirect.co.uk/sh/default.asp?id=1152&show=showsexguidetopic
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't use a vaginal vibrator in the anus. Buy him his very own vibrating butt plug, they're only about £8. It's designed for it, and it keeps your toys clean.

    I don't think there is anything abnormal about what he's said. Personally I'd rather use a tissue to get rid of cum, but that's horses for courses. Anal play can be very pleasant.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    LOADS of blokes secretly want it up the arse. I dont think its overly kinky.
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    ClaireBearClaireBear Deactivated Posts: 467 Listening Ear
    Hiya,
    Here's some reliable info about the safety of drinking semen and the nutritional value of sperm, you'll see that a) if someone's got an STI then it's not safe for them to drink their sperm, and b) you'd have to drink gallons of the stuff to benefit from it's nutrients - all of which you could get elsewhere.

    CB
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmm the vibrator in him thats rather interesting, as for me I have never mentioned my kinky side to my gf probably dont plan on it either, cause even though someone says they want to try they will give a false look acting interested but deep down are like in disagreement.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my bf is kinda kinky too...i dont think hes into drinking his own cum tho.... but i spose sex is always a kinda personal thing.as long as u can appreciate his likes and he doesnt put pressure on you to do anything then dont be afriad!just take a chilled approach and it will all be good!maybe even let loose a little and try and do some kinky stuff thats a little lighter than that....it might turn out to be fun!x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Guys thanks so much for the replies since I was last on-and you know thats a bloody good idea about getting his own one-wonder if ann summers do them as my mate is holding a party fri-no actually I don't want her knowing my lil secrets I go to hustler in brum!

    He'd no doubt find that quite sexy that I'd buy him something. And my rabbit is cute and pink and I don't want it messed with by a man! :razz:


    CB thanks for the link-should be interesting to see if dads parental block lets me go there! (it did with rainbows link)

    I am happy to go play with him and his butt-its when his talking bout mine I am worried! Hmm, no dear, you can't go there! Tough!

    Sexpod-I do sometimes wonder that he is just saying this because he knows I've been to fetish clubs and thinks its the right thing to say to me!


    Anyways I won't see him to july 22 so I have plenty of time to go find a nice toy or too! (and possibly another for me,!)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh my well i think id have to say drinking my own cum is the last thing im thinking of after sex
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mini update I found a toy for him in anne summers-its not too big and no worries over mom getting my post by mistake that way!

    I also went to hustler and got a flogger-mmm! Not as fantastic as the floggers i saw at the bbb in brum not so long back but yay its pink! I then went to an ann summers party fri and have ordered some stuff. Not just for him I may add!

    All my wages are going, I should have stuck with my rabbit and not got a bloke! that only costs me two quid about once two months (batteries!)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oooh did I have fun or did I have fun!

    We had very vanilla sex apart from sunday when we played with our toys, I dressed up and we used the bondage kit. He didnt once attempt any drinkin of his cum!!

    and he let me use a finger and a toy (not at the same time!) up his bum but it was no different to when my ex told me he liked it. So I'm feeling so happy. I got a fantastic lover who really makes me cum-he found my gspot and not even I have accomplished that. Good god its like instant orgasm!!


    So er al in all i wanna thank you guys for helping me out on this thread and making sure I didnt freak out and lose out on the best sex I had ever! Damn theres gotta be something go wrong...this is too good! (he even ran a bath and we shared, its gotta end in tears this hasn't it?!)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wahey! Glad it's all working out, and you're having and fun and adventurous time in bed. :naughty:
    It's good to be with someone so open to ideas and experiences. :thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yup my congrats too
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