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Inadequacy
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WHilst i am officially single, i started seeing a guy. I think we may be heading for a relationship as it doesnt seem to be about sex. Only thing is, he's a good looking guy, and as i learn more about his past experiences, girlfriends etc im feeling more and more inadequate. I imagine them all being slim and gorgeous and i'm not, i have stretchmarks all over my belly and its saggy, part babybelly and partly due to weightloss(5 stone). Now im a size 12-14 but i imagine his ex's as perfect 10's. I also found out he used to sleep with a woman in his 30's, Ifeel like im sh*t compared to what he is used to. He knows im in the process of losing weight and trying to tone up and so whilst hes supportive without pressurising, i worry hes only seeing me coz he thinks i will get a nice figure eventually. However when i insist on staying covered up and hiding under the duvet he does ask 'whats the matter with ya?!'
hes not a nob by any stretch of the imagination, he hasnt said anything nasty or blunt, i just feel inadequate
go on make me feel better hehe x
hes not a nob by any stretch of the imagination, he hasnt said anything nasty or blunt, i just feel inadequate
go on make me feel better hehe x
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And all these other girls are in the past, maybe hes not into perfect ten?!
He obviously attracted to you and paying no attention to what you think are bad things!!
Just be happy that you are spending time with him, stop worrying about how you look!
and besides, looks are nothing compared to personality. Whats the point in dating a size 8/10 with the personality of a brick?