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A lil advice please leed/wolves too far?!
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Ok I haven't had a mind crisis for a while in regards to lust so I am out of practice!
I was seeing a guy-one proper date and a few snogs in a nightclub on two occasions-hardly serious and although I did say we were going out we weren't really-I mean you can't call that going out? I haven't even seen him for a month. He is a lot older than me too-not a problem to me though. He is friends with people I don't want to upset so i need to be really careful.
Basically i fell for a new lad. He's younger and we have amazing chemistry. We are on the same wavelength and we really hit ot off. I thought it would be a brief yet nice fling and he wouldn't really want to take it further in real life. But he text me saying he did and we've had such an amazing text time and I spoke to him last night.
I have yet to tell the other guy purely because I am not doing it by text/email/phone. I don't want to be a coward and I owe him that. New guy knows and is ok as I explained why I have yet to tell him. Thats question one-do i tell the old guy its because we don't really have time to see eachother and it does make a difference with age-would that be enough to end a not serious thing?
New guys mate gave me a brief lecture asking "what are your intentions with my mate" as apparently he hasn't had much luck with girls-I find that hard to believe as he is so fine and such a genuinely nice guy.
So the problem. He lives in leeds. I live in wolverhampton. How can it work? I want it to work and I think it can but do long distance relationships ever work?! That was question two. I have no real experience as the furthest was shrewsbury before this. He isnt online either and I've soent so much money on credit so far.
I don't like making these sort of posts as I'm no good at expressing what I want to say so bear with my waffling. I just feel confused as I don't like not knowing whats going to happen! To much of a control freak I think!
I was seeing a guy-one proper date and a few snogs in a nightclub on two occasions-hardly serious and although I did say we were going out we weren't really-I mean you can't call that going out? I haven't even seen him for a month. He is a lot older than me too-not a problem to me though. He is friends with people I don't want to upset so i need to be really careful.
Basically i fell for a new lad. He's younger and we have amazing chemistry. We are on the same wavelength and we really hit ot off. I thought it would be a brief yet nice fling and he wouldn't really want to take it further in real life. But he text me saying he did and we've had such an amazing text time and I spoke to him last night.
I have yet to tell the other guy purely because I am not doing it by text/email/phone. I don't want to be a coward and I owe him that. New guy knows and is ok as I explained why I have yet to tell him. Thats question one-do i tell the old guy its because we don't really have time to see eachother and it does make a difference with age-would that be enough to end a not serious thing?
New guys mate gave me a brief lecture asking "what are your intentions with my mate" as apparently he hasn't had much luck with girls-I find that hard to believe as he is so fine and such a genuinely nice guy.
So the problem. He lives in leeds. I live in wolverhampton. How can it work? I want it to work and I think it can but do long distance relationships ever work?! That was question two. I have no real experience as the furthest was shrewsbury before this. He isnt online either and I've soent so much money on credit so far.
I don't like making these sort of posts as I'm no good at expressing what I want to say so bear with my waffling. I just feel confused as I don't like not knowing whats going to happen! To much of a control freak I think!
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Ive never beein in a long distance relationship so I cant really comment but I genuinely think its down to the individuals
Hope everything works out chick x
however, it takes a lot of work, money and commitment to keep it going, so the instances where it works are usually the ones where both parties are fairly serious about each other.