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are parents being too shortsighted?

BillieTheBotBillieTheBot Posts: 8,721 Bot
in Sex & Relationships
just a thought.......

you know "those" conversations your parents bring up every now and again...sex, babies, etc, etc.

at 18 my mum still feels the need to try and educate me about these subjects. she still thinks i'm a virgin, and that i will be until i get married (note the "will" get married).

how many parents nowadays have a realistic view of their children's sex lives? it seems to me as though they assume the absolute worst, or that you have all the sexual desires and urges of a 3 year old.
down with the pork and apple combination!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its better for them to be involved then u be completely clueless and go around havin unprotcted sex and believing all the rumours that guys tel u. Some ppl dont even get sex ed @ skool as GFM pointed out in another post and ppl dont understand the dangers.

    They're probably just lukin out 4u. i think its sweet! Me and my mum arent close and we dont talk about nefink like that!
    Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My mum has just started taking an interest in my life and does stuff like refusing to let me go to my boyf's house if his parents aren't there. it is fairly stupid, cos i think we could get round them if we were wanting to do stuff at his house anyway even if they were there. it's so annoying!
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    my mum knows i had sex with my ex, for a start we shared a room (coz my dad always wanted the computer in the spare room early in the morning and we tended to stay up late and not want to get up at 11am! of course that was the official reason...)... and i talked to her about going on the pill too. but she gave me "the talk" once i pretty much knew everything anyway! and she didnt say that much coz i get the impression she was a bit embarrassed...

    but my friends mum (the one i mentioned in all the other threads involving sex ed and love triangles!) seems to think they dont do anything... and theyve been engaged since they were going out about 4 months! her boyfriends mum said they could sleep in the same bed up at his house only if her parent agree, but as her parents dont even know she has sex i dont think she'll be talking to them about it!!

    but yeah, its a bit stupid saying you cant see your bf when paernts arent there, or you cant sleep in the same room... if you want to have sex you're going to anyway!!
    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    christ, i know the ins and outs of my mothers sex life. i could right a book about it.
    wait, that's disgustin innit? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    and no, i dont like it. it grosses me out. worse day was when she came out with the followin...
    "i cant beleive im saying this to my daughter... but i LOVE oral sex".grrrrrrrrr i am now scarred for life. i really coulda lived without that one.
    eww eww eww eww eww.
    scary thing is, she's too like me in ways id rather not know about. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
    but i dont feel ashamed to ask her anything, and this is probly why. it doesnt bother me that my mother is sexually active. it bothers me that i have to know everything that entails <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by IcKleMoNSteR:
    christ, i know the ins and outs of my mothers sex life. i could right a book about it.
    wait, that's disgustin innit? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    and no, i dont like it. it grosses me out. worse day was when she came out with the followin...
    "i cant beleive im saying this to my daughter... but i LOVE oral sex".grrrrrrrrr i am now scarred for life. i really coulda lived without that one.
    eww eww eww eww eww.
    scary thing is, she's too like me in ways id rather not know about. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
    but i dont feel ashamed to ask her anything, and this is probly why. it doesnt bother me that my mother is sexually active. it bothers me that i have to know everything that entails <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;


    Yah, i can imagine how that would gross you out!!! I've never had the talk, never realiy discussed it with anyone.
    I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    ewwwww ickle, theres some stuff you just DONT need to know!!!!!!! i think id die if my mum said somethign like that.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;
    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    me and my mum is close in a lot of ways but even so, we don't talk about sex much. and definitely not about what she likes doing! i will be so embrassed and i don't think i'll be able to look at my mum in the same way again. being close is one thing...but i think between mum and daughter...there always will be some boundaries. funny enough, if it came from my bestmate - it wouldn't affect me at all!!

    i guess my mum will lecture me on things like being careful about having sex etc etc etc which is nice but i know most of the things she says repetitively anyway! but being such a good daughter i am, i just go along with her to keep her happy. she is only caring afterall.

    i wonder do boys get these kinda lectures too?? funny picture!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ickle tha is sooooooo gross! i think i wud throw up if my mum said something like that to me! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
    Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Grrrrrrr, well my dad said once something about when he was my age he and my mum used to do it in the snow, how mashed up is that.

    Sorry I gotta run, my breakfast is coming back...
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