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I Keep Messing Things Up.
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Well, I've been with my lovely bf for almost 6 months now, but in the last 2 months I've found myself taking pleasure in mind games. Though I feel so terrible afterwards, I keep willing myself to push boundaries and start arguments. A few times I've even mentioned ending the relationship to him just to see his reaction. It really makes me feel so guilty when I'm not with him, but sometimes I can't stop myself.
I love him more than anything - he's my first love and I'm so so happy with him, but I tend to dominate him. Hes a bit soft to me - always happy to do what I want to do, sending me random love texts throughout the day. However, he's always paranoid that I fancy one of his mates, or that I'll cheat on him. For instance, I'm going up to Bristol this weekend with my family and a friend to visit relatives, only staying till Monday, yet he's told me to tell him if I end up going off with another boy! And on Sunday I was playing with his phone, but he wrestled it off me (playfully) and it had gone onto his mate's number, and he didn't talk or look at me for an hour because he thought I was texting his mate.
Though I love him so intensely, we're really going through a rough patch, what with my mentalist behaviour and his jealousy.. does anyone have any words of advice, or has anyone ever resorted to mind games for no reason?
Cheers, Thomasyn x
I love him more than anything - he's my first love and I'm so so happy with him, but I tend to dominate him. Hes a bit soft to me - always happy to do what I want to do, sending me random love texts throughout the day. However, he's always paranoid that I fancy one of his mates, or that I'll cheat on him. For instance, I'm going up to Bristol this weekend with my family and a friend to visit relatives, only staying till Monday, yet he's told me to tell him if I end up going off with another boy! And on Sunday I was playing with his phone, but he wrestled it off me (playfully) and it had gone onto his mate's number, and he didn't talk or look at me for an hour because he thought I was texting his mate.
Though I love him so intensely, we're really going through a rough patch, what with my mentalist behaviour and his jealousy.. does anyone have any words of advice, or has anyone ever resorted to mind games for no reason?
Cheers, Thomasyn x
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As for your mind-games, I highly suggest trying to stop. I dated a girl about 3 years ago who did the same thing, and it is a large part of what ended our relationship. I know you may have trouble controlling the things you do, just like how he has trouble controlling his jealousy, but both of you need to work on those areas of your personality so that it won't affect your relationship. In the end, if you truly feel your relationship is worth keeping, you'll be able to use that to help you get through whatever problems you two will have, but I think you both need to find some way to deal with those aspects of your relationship. It will cause a lot of arguements, believe me, I just had a massive one last night because of my jealousy. Just remind him, and try to remember yourself that you two are together because you're in love, and if you want the relationship to work, you should be willing to do anything to fix things.
Best of luck...
Mind games = not cool!
I can say this from first hand experience.My ex boyfriend played mind games on me something rotten to the point where the only way i could retaliate and get a result was by playing mind games with him.And in the end we both ended up cheating on each other just to prove a petty point to each other.Needless to say the relationship ended very shortly after that.
Playing mind games is not only hurtful but it really speaks voulmes about the insecurities and jealousys that you must have.It also shows that you cant have much respect for your partner if your willing to hurt them in that way.If you know its wrong and you feel rubbish about it DONT DO IT!!
Speak to your boyfriend about how insecure you feel at times.Im sure that if hes as lovely as he sounds hel be only too happy to reassure that your worries are unfounded.
He soudns like a decent bloke,id do my best to keep him.
Take care
The indie kid x x x
SBG