Men r so confusing!!!

Former Member · January 2001

HIYA!
Me and my boyfriend have been together six months and I love him very, very much, but sometimes I am just not so sure he feels the same! He tells me he loves me almost every day and is fairly affectionate towards me, but then sometimes he is really quite moody and doesnt speak to me if I do the smallest thing he doesnt like!! I am so confused tho, when I talk to him he says its all in my head and he does love me, so I wonder if maybe it is just me coz I am way too sensitive at the best of times! We both feel as if we r ready for sex now and are planning to do it soon (and yes we r both old enough) but lately I feel that I shouldnt because maybe he doesnt love me so I should get him to prove his love first! What do u think? Am I just too sensitive?? Or just crazy! LOL! Any advice pls!
P.S. When we do eventually have sex we have absolutely nowhere to go! My parents are always at home and so r his, and its way too cold outside! So, the only place we can come up with is his car! Any suggestions??

THANKS FOR THE HELP!

Former Member · January 2001

well us blokes can be moody bastards sometimes.im sure he does love u. i think maybe he just snaps cause u annoy him sometimes, but those are relationships. take the punches and u will be able to cope with anything. u r lucky to be in a loving relationship. if u wanna take it to the next level ,then go for it, stay safe!

Former Member · January 2001

I agree with Chris that maybe he just snaps, and you might just be too sensitive.

On the other hand - its been my experience that your gut is usually right. I've had relationships that the guy says they totally love you (and maybe they even think they do) but you just feel that they don't. And in the end I've usually been right.
So my best advice, is look at yourself if you're being irrational but ALSO trust your intuition its your best defense for many situations.

Also- one more thing, its up to you, but I'd reccommend not planning on your first time together to be in car. Wait a bit 'til at least 'til your 'rents are out. It'll be a lot nicer
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Former Member · January 2001

i'll go along with trancegrrl, many people hold a veil around the truth and deny what is in front of their very eyes.

u obviously have feelings for this guy but if u don't feel that everything's peachy, u should talk to him about it, no point in pretending that you're happy when you're not.

I'd reccommend the talking over the 'proving his love' idea, very dangerous ground and most guys don't like to be tested in that way, it's kinda callous.

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Former Member · January 2001

us guys do sulk allot and we never admit when we are wrong cause we are always right. Anyway, he may be snapping at you cause he has something on his mind or you MIGHT have done something to upset him.

As for having sex with him in a quiet place. I think a beach is too cold. If I had a girlfriend and wanted to be alone with her I would book a bed and breakfast for a few days in Blackpool so we would be alone and we could have fun with the turds on the beach and go on the fair and be alone at night <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

If you feel he doesn't love you then do you really think you should be thinking about sex at this stage?

Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive

Former Member · January 2001

I agree with the other posters, however one thing that they haven't mentioned.
It wouldn't be a good idea for you to get him to prove his love. How exactly would he be able to do that anyway? By buying you something, or taking you out?
Love cannot be proven, if he truly believes that he loves you then you can easily tell if he is lying or not.
As for you rents not going out, Im sure they work don't they? If you really want to do it, then you may have to skive off to do it. As for going outside, you dont usually notice the cold, it is worse if it is wet.....Or if there are a lot of midges flying about trying to bite you. The lumps didnt go away for a week, I couldnt tell my mum where I got them from, she thought I had menningitis!

JsT · January 2001

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Former Member · January 2001

I often feel like that BagPuss, but maybe it isn't to do with you...maybe there's something else going on in his life that he has problems with that you don't know about? Don't automatically assume it's you.

Having sex often changes the relationship a little bit, maybe he'll feel more able to open up to you, but it has been known for the bloke to do the opposite <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> Try and get this sorted out before, ask him again and make sure he knows that you KNOW something's wrong and that you want to try and help if you can.

Good luck, and let us know how it turns out <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

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Former Member · January 2001

Hiya y'all! Thanks for all the advice! Things are much better between us now! I had a talk to him and we sorted things out and now we are back to normal and very happy together! We are still faced with the problem of never having anywhere to go to have sex! It'll be the first time for both of us, so I want it to be special obviously, which rules out the back of his car! LOL! The only place would be my house or his, but our parents are nearly always at home (or other things get in the way)! We nearly did it in his house the other night coz we were alone, but my parents turned up there unexpectedly to pick me! Its sooooooo annoying!!!

Former Member · January 2001

LOL ur parents must have got vibes,

im happy you got things sorted out, and good luck with the sex thing,

its so easy for me cos ill do it anywhere if i wanna do it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">

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Former Member · January 2001

Originally posted by Broken Heart:
us guys do sulk allot and we never admit when we are wrong cause we are always right.

I NEVER sulk ... and I'm not talking to you until I get my own way!

"One can't complain. I have my friends. Someone spoke to me only yesterday."

Men r so confusing!!!

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