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She found out
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Hmm probably totally wrong topic, should be in sex i guess, but it didnt quite fit in there. Anyways here it goes.
I phoned up my kinda ex g/f (shes a bit werid, keeps dumping me but still wants me etc) and her mum answered, asked who it was, then said she had a bone to pick with me. She then went on about how she could go to the police cos she found out i slept with her daughter who is a few months underage.
She then went on about abortion and went into great detail about how they do it and how she cant believe id do such a thing and how she'd lost all respect for me etc etc. This has really upset me. Many girls lose their virginity before 16, its not like when shes 16 its perfectly acceptable to have sex anyways.
My ex said she was ready, she told me she wanted to do it, i didnt pressure her and we used protection and i tried to be as gentle with her as i could. I even posted in here asking if it was the right thing to do, and many of you agreeded saying i showed a lot of maturity.
I know her mum cant do much, police wont do anything cos her daughter has no need or reason to complain, she wanted to do it and shes glad she has done.
Its just upset me a bit the way her mum had a go at me, guess she has a right to maybe, but i really duno what to do or think.
Making me feel so shit right now.
I phoned up my kinda ex g/f (shes a bit werid, keeps dumping me but still wants me etc) and her mum answered, asked who it was, then said she had a bone to pick with me. She then went on about how she could go to the police cos she found out i slept with her daughter who is a few months underage.
She then went on about abortion and went into great detail about how they do it and how she cant believe id do such a thing and how she'd lost all respect for me etc etc. This has really upset me. Many girls lose their virginity before 16, its not like when shes 16 its perfectly acceptable to have sex anyways.
My ex said she was ready, she told me she wanted to do it, i didnt pressure her and we used protection and i tried to be as gentle with her as i could. I even posted in here asking if it was the right thing to do, and many of you agreeded saying i showed a lot of maturity.
I know her mum cant do much, police wont do anything cos her daughter has no need or reason to complain, she wanted to do it and shes glad she has done.
Its just upset me a bit the way her mum had a go at me, guess she has a right to maybe, but i really duno what to do or think.
Making me feel so shit right now.
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Maybe her mum is just blaming you because she doesn't want to think her precious daughter would do anything like that. She'd probably behave the same way even if she were over 16.
You should probably explain to her how much you care about her daughter.
Mums are mums, they care for their children. You couldnt possibly have expected anything else.
I dont see why i should be burned at the stake for it, im not the first bloke to do it, and im certainly not the last. Hell theirs girls at 12 having babies by inconciderate blokes, but i treated her the best i could, didnt force her, she decided by her own free will.
Sure her mums gona be upset by it, but no need to grill me over it, i aint an idiot and dont just shag anything and then move onto the next girl, i made it special for her, made sure we used protection and most of all, that she was 100% comfortable with it, she could have stopped at any time.
Maybe i should just give up, let rude boys shag girls and get away with nothing being said to them.
I just dont think i deserve this grilling, it takes two people to have sex, and im not the kind to rush into things. At the end of the day its as much her wanting it as me.
Besides what i really dont get is when her older sister (my age, so 17) moved out to wales to live with a bloke she barely knew about 2 years ago, her mum didnt have a go at her or him or anything. So i just dont see why i deserve all this grilling.
Any chance of her coming round? What did your ex-girlfriend say about it??
Edited to add ex- to girlfriend. Slight difference between the two <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
[ 23-05-2002: Message edited by: Narcotic ]
Thats what mums do.
Try and see it from her POV she loves her daughter and to see her go through what she has and to think that her underage daughter has been having sex, I think she has a right to be angry.
LMFAO at the very thought <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> what a fool you are.
what do think this girl was? some kinda club? 'show ID to enter me here' sign hanging over her crotch? <IMG SRC="redface.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> twat <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Did you read any posts? <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Check my list of things to do:
Empty house - check
Condoms - check
Candles - check
Background plinky plonky music - check
Romantic meal for two - check
So I'll just need some ID to prove that you are in fact my girlfriend and you can sign here, here and here for when your mother finds out... A photo supposedly for similar purposes <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">.
Yes that is me and I agree to this. Drop em and spread em <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
And we're ready to "go in" as you so delicately put it <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
*went of an a tangent a bit* *congrats to anyone who followed that bit of "humour"*
*must try harder*
I was going to add some actual recent personal experience with such mothers fidning out their daughters antics. In fact the sotry is very similar except that I'm 10 months younger than my girlfriend. I think my parents know cos they make little comments but we haven't spoken about it directly. To think at our first time I'd had my 15th a month before - and she was a month short of her 16th!
All parents react differently maybe her mums concern is to do with all the young pregnancies in the country.
*if you cant do the time, dont do the crime*
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