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bad experience brought up again!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
please help me sort this out! i was seeing this guy about 6 months ago and we sort of ended on bad terms after he fingered me coz he pressurized me into letting him. he's in my year at school and recently he told some of his mates about it (u know how blokes boast about everything!)
Anyway, 1 of his mates who i happened 2 quite like (but not any more) has now spread it round the whole year and all these guys keep asking me if the 'rumour' is true. i never wanted anyone 2 find out about it coz its not the type of thing i'd normally do. i dont know whether 2 ring my ex and ask wot his problem is or just keep my head held high and pretend it never happened.
wot does every1 else think?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    id do both if i was you!! phone him and demand an explanation, but in school deny all knowledge <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> !!! to me he sounds like a complete tosser and you're better of without him! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i agree with dizzy blonde babe. dont let him see that its getting to you and he'll soon feel like the prick that he is cos he wont be getting the attention that he wants. just show him that your much better than him by being mature about the whole thing and getting on with life, show him that you couldnt really care less what he says cos hes the one with a problem if he wants to brag about these things. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    either that or tell all the girls wot a small dick he's got! <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    cheers angelbabe thats really good advice! wel 1 person's said ring him but im not making a decision just yet - i still need more advice! i think i might just ignore him 2moro at school. or should i ring him 2nite? i gave him the evils earlier when he smiled at me, what a cheek we ain't even spoken in about 2-3 months! neway thanx xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I presume the boy spreading the rumour is the same age as you ? You'll find boys that age very immature and have not reached "mental puberty".I can only sugest that your next b/f is a couple of years older than you,then you'll find that your relationship is kept confidential.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah pedro i know what u mean but its just so hard 2 meet nice people who i'd actually consider going out with. i mean i know a few nice guys from out of school but just as mates and all the boys in my school are complete losers! i'll see how it goes 2moro wiv my ex and all the rumours etc. and let every1 know
    bye!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    denial is the cause of a blissful life
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wot ur x-boyfriend did was totally out of order <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">! i agree with kinkywizard!
    tell all his mates that he tryed to get you to give him a bit of wrist action but he was so small <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> you couldt do it because you were laughing way to much at his little maggot. and if you could do it to him u'd have to use twezzers or sumfing! tell everyone that he cant kiss to save his life and that he told you he has one ball or sumfing! what can i say? im the vengeful type <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> DONT GET MAD! GET EVEN!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hold on, blokes need to talk just as much as girls do, you may call it boasting. But you girls are just as bad if not worse because you go into very tiny little detail <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    He finger you, told a mate, his friend told everyone else you can't blame your ex, he has the right to tell his mate what he likes, just like you have the right to tell your friends about him.

    If you must be mad at someone be mad at his friend who told everyone. Your bf has not really done anything wrong
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    cheers zella i'll keep those remarks in mind!! harmless, i do blame my ex's mate a lot coz i used 2 be ok mates wiv him but now i hate him.
    the thing is it wasn't just 1 mate my ex told it woz a whole bunch of them when they were havin a sick boast about how far they've got. i think its sick 2 treat girls like objects which can be used then chucked away i mean girls do chat about it but we dont spread it to the whole world, just close mates who we know can keep a secret!
    loopy loz xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by loopy loz:
    <STRONG>cheers zella i'll keep those remarks in mind!! harmless, i do blame my ex's mate a lot coz i used 2 be ok mates wiv him but now i hate him.
    the thing is it wasn't just 1 mate my ex told it woz a whole bunch of them when they were havin a sick boast about how far they've got. i think its sick 2 treat girls like objects which can be used then chucked away i mean girls do chat about it but we dont spread it to the whole world, just close mates who we know can keep a secret!
    loopy loz xxx</STRONG>

    I'm with Harmless on this one. Guys talk in exactly the same way as women do. You should hear some of the stories myself and my mates tell ..... !!! Okay so maybe girls don't 'boast' but if someone tells someone else something (what?) then you can never guarantee that it won't get passed on. The same has obviously happened here ... your ex-b/f has told his pals and one of them has taken it upon himself to make a big deal out of it. Just goes to show how childish this guy is!!

    Anyway, back to the question in hand, just don't get wound up about it ... it will all blow over in a few days. Gossip is just, well, gossip and something else will come along for people to talk about soon enough. Just hold your head high and walk proud.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    how old are you?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I wouldn't bother gong around and starting to spread stuff about him. it is just stooping to him level. Loopi and harmless are right. there is no oint. I admit i talk to my mates. Things get out of hand but thats the way that life is. just hold your head high and ignore what people say. Its your life you can do what you want.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    there woz a party last night (which i didn't go 2) and u know the gossip that goes on after them so i should be free from gossip. yey!!! laydee_ice im 15 (my age is in my profile!!) do any of u guys get rly annoyed when u go 2 a house party and all evry1's interested in is snogging and doin foreplay in front of everyone. i think it makes ppl look as though they have no self dignity, yuk!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont to be sexist but i think that girlskeep thingslike this more private,,whentalking to am8 thas all lads like to do is brag... <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> en it pisses me off
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    p[-00000

    <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> I think you've got to be a little more open-minded about life and sex,you'll always get couples gropping each other,but I agree,it should be done in private.Take care. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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