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Where did the clitoris go? PLEASE HELP ME!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I have an absolutely wonderful girlfriend. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. To have someone this wonderful, I would want to have something wonderful happen to her, like an orgasm. Well, I have tried a few times with mediocre results. A little while ago, I bought the book "the guide to getting it on." It has some useful stuff in there, and I tried what it told me. I was able to do things ok after that. Then, all of a sudden... there it goes. The clit, as I understand it, retreats into its hood. It's supposidly a pre-orgasmic response, but... I couldn't find it anymore. I searched, she searched, it was like it wasn't there anymore. I was far from succeeding now. It was all downhill from there. What do I do in that situation? Is there any specific way of finding it again? What do I rub now? Also, she is about as clueless as I am. She does not masterbate, I am her first encounter. She said she has tried to give herself an orgasm and failed.

I tell her she's beutiful and everything, because she is. I spend tons of time with her. We have such a connection, so the emotional aspect is there, but after about five tries of giving her an orgasm, it is hopeless. Can anyone help me?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont panic!!

    before i suceeded in giving myself an orgasm i had, had nemerous attempts!tell ur gf that she will need 2 make sure she is relaxed and there is no chance of some1 walking in when she is masturbating.

    stimulating the clit may take sum time 2 bring her to orgasm but the more practice she gets the easier it will be.

    i am baffled at the "disapearing clit" thing so i have no idea bout that.

    but all i can say is if ur gf gets worked up about not being able 2 orgasm it will become harder and harder.

    goodluck! luv jl
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hay!
    well as for the vanasion clit i dont know?! surely when you start to feel good it gets bigger?!

    as for not comeing, maybe she needes something with a bit more pressure try a spray from a shower. ive known it to work in the past! wink wink nudge nudge

    or try let her touch you whilst you try rubbing her clit?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The following topics may have some good advice for bringing a girl to orgasm... also, not all girls can come from just clitoral stimulation. you may need to stimulate the g-spot as well (or only the g-spot and not the clit). or try different combinations. my advice is to start off really slowly, gradually building up to clitoral stimulation.
    http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000623.html http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000546.html http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000545.html http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000522.html
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    WHAT???? YOU CAN'T FIND THE CLIT!??!??
    OUCH, THATS ABOUT AS BAD AS GETTING HALF YOUR DICK LOPPED OFF!!! (at least i'm guessing, cuz from the way my g/f reacts...)

    Blessed Be
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don`t worry bout it NotTheMan. I can`t even find the bugger in the first place. I know is supposed to be 'above there' somewhere (or so I`m told) but the little bugger doesn`t seem to want to reveal itself.
    Even when I`m bringing her off, I just can`t find the sod. Can anyone give me a hand here.

    "Honesty is just an excuse for lack of imagination."
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    i seriously dont get the big thing about not being able to find the clitoris. is it really that hard? isnt it glaringly obvious? and talyn, i have no idea how you can "bring her off" without having found it, tbh.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's like a big lump of jelly like skin just below the end rough of the pubic hair before her "openings" appear.....

    Oh god, its different with all women though, but generally found at the top of the vaginal area before the pubiv hair.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Talyn:
    Don`t worry bout it NotTheMan. I can`t even find the bugger in the first place. I know is supposed to be 'above there' somewhere (or so I`m told) but the little bugger doesn`t seem to want to reveal itself.
    Even when I`m bringing her off, I just can`t find the sod. Can anyone give me a hand here.


    I don't usually actually "see" it while I'm down on my g/f. But if you move your tongue in that general area, you'll prolly feel it. Also, try moving your tongue just under where things open up, that might help.

    Tommy
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When I said 'bringing her off', I really should`ve said ATTEMPTING. Its very rare we have anywhere private and she's a bit loud so its very difficult because she's so loud and when there's someone else in the house you end up jumping every time you hear the slightest sound.
    She`s getting her own flat soon so we can do whatever we like as long as we don't upset the neighbours <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    i seriously dont get the big thing about not being able to find the clitoris. is it really that hard? isnt it glaringly obvious? and talyn, i have no idea how you can "bring her off" without having found it, tbh.




    "Honesty is just an excuse for lack of imagination."
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