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:wave: hiya all!! im new here and likin it thanks to all you nice folks :yes:
well anyways!!! lets cut to the chase!! ive been dating this guy for like 3 months now and im so ready to have sex with him, as in im a virgin. hes older than me so he has had a lot of experience but hes never had sex with a virgin before (not that he minds or anything). im confident with my body and everything and i really want to do it with him....i was just thinking how much pain i will feel. im rather confused. ive been fingered before with only one finger and no pain or anything, then not often with 2 fingers but when i was it wasnt pain it was just a little discomfort i felt and pressure. as in, everytime hed push harder or go deeper or such all i felt was discomfort and nothing more...so im thinking does this mean sex wont be as painful for me??? but i still cant seem to stick those damn tampons in!! :mad: .... also, do you think that it might be posible that im too tight for him to go in and out??? or does that not happen? he is around 6-7 inches long and not that thick but his penis is all normal......aaaand another thing...silly question but yeah. when he puts the condom on and goes on me, will he have to look down to see where hes putting his penis or does he just do it without looking? :yeees:
thanks for all the help
well anyways!!! lets cut to the chase!! ive been dating this guy for like 3 months now and im so ready to have sex with him, as in im a virgin. hes older than me so he has had a lot of experience but hes never had sex with a virgin before (not that he minds or anything). im confident with my body and everything and i really want to do it with him....i was just thinking how much pain i will feel. im rather confused. ive been fingered before with only one finger and no pain or anything, then not often with 2 fingers but when i was it wasnt pain it was just a little discomfort i felt and pressure. as in, everytime hed push harder or go deeper or such all i felt was discomfort and nothing more...so im thinking does this mean sex wont be as painful for me??? but i still cant seem to stick those damn tampons in!! :mad: .... also, do you think that it might be posible that im too tight for him to go in and out??? or does that not happen? he is around 6-7 inches long and not that thick but his penis is all normal......aaaand another thing...silly question but yeah. when he puts the condom on and goes on me, will he have to look down to see where hes putting his penis or does he just do it without looking? :yeees:
thanks for all the help
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Have fun!!
The best way to feel comfortable and relaxed is to have talked openly about any worries with your fella beforehand. If you both know that you can stop at any time you will feel better about things.
Take a read of this article which takes you through the basics of having sex for the first time - including the importance of contraception and condoms to protect against any sexual infections.
sorry but i don't agree with this. i was relaxed, had had plenty of foreplay before and he was as gentle as could be yet still it hurt like hell.
This may seem a bit unorthadox, but it might help to have a shot or two of vodka before you do it to help you relax (not enough to get drunk of course). One girl told me she did that and it didn't hurt much more than putting a pen up your nose
Feel free to disregard that hint
First of all... My first time was painfull, i'm not going to lie. But if i can give you one piece of advice it's this..LUBE. Lube yourself up and it will make life so much easier!
If you think he's too big ask him not to go so deep.
Lastly when i have sex personally i guide his penis in myself. I don't know how in the films it finds its way magically into the vagina, cause that just doesn't happen with me! If you feel comfortable guide it in yourself, if not let him. Take it very slowly though.
Oh and i've heard a lot of girls bleed first time. I didn't but just in case put a towel down over the covers. And RELAX, it's meant to be fun!!
Have sex with you on top- that way things 'fit' better and you can control it really easy
:chin: well to tell you the truth i have already thought about this and decided i will have a little bit of ...vodka!! :hyper: uh i love vodka haha...and funny as saying, im an orthodox too haha but a serb and im not religious we drink ourselves to death :thumb: .....i told my boyfriend i want to drink to relax and feel less pain and he wasnt that happy about it , started rambling how i may regret it later or report him for abuse if i dont remember ...haha silly boy i told him this would never happen, how could i report him for abuse!!! :eek2:
anyway...yes i will drink when we do it, but we arent planning it or anything, its just going to happen....the problem is that his older sister just moved into his apartment and its realy annoying. i can only spend afterhours at his place on weekends because she goes out...basically this means when we do my first time im probably not going to be able to sleep over (and id like to) :mad: and relaaaax...but gonna have to call a cab and go home at a certain time before 6 am!!!!!! :yeees: well that sucks but hey.....whatever... :rolleyes:
p.s. whats rather funny is that 2 shots of vodka CAN get ME drunk! if you believe me, i have such low immunity i drink the least at all the parties......and i usually get drunk off of about 4-5 beers.
heya thanks for the tip but i think ill stick to the misionary position.....i really think its easier for me and more relaxing since the girl on top position requires skill and such....i will try that out later. :yes: :thumb: