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GIRL AND GIRL
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I have a lovely boy friend and we can sometimes have great sex. The prob is that when we have sex or he fingers me etc.. All i fantasize about is licking girls out and playing wiv each others tits. I think there mite B somethin wrong wiv me, theres a Lesbian I know That gives it 2 NE1 and I dont know whether 2 fuck her? Please help x
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ur annoying.u cant just 'fuck' someone coz u fantasize about women.especially wen u hav a bf.ur posts are really insensitive.
Here is my advice. I think you should discuss your fantasms with your boy friend. Here is a suggestion : if he doesn't bother seeing you fucking a girl, and he doesn't mind fucking another person either, you can do a threesome with the Lesbian you know. That way, you try something new, and you respect your male partner - if he agrees with this idea.
~There are three types of people in this world : those who can count, and those who can't.~
Firstly, as you say you have a lovely boyfriend which your attracted to (I persume) so I wouldn't say you where a lesbian as that would count as:
lesbian, informal les noun
a woman who is sexually attracted only to other women
Are you attracted to other girls, outside of actually having sex with your boyfriend? If the answer is yes or indeed possibly you could be bisexual or bi-curious:
bisexual noun, adjective
(a person who is) attracted to both men and women
Bisexualism isn't uncommon, its actually getting more and more common as attitudes become more tolerant. For some people its a phase they go through while in puberty, usually growing out to being either gay or straight. Some people remain bisexual and its genuinely more tolerated amongst girls than with lads, that I can vouch for <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
You where talking as well about wanting to experiment with other people of the same sex, this isn't that uncommon either but I'd say sleeping with someone just to 'try it out' can cause a lot of heartache for the other if they're not aware.
I'd probably say to speak with this girl and see what her views are, remember if you do sleep with her then you are cheating on your boyfriend, would you really be so tolerant if he did the same with another lad?
I'd also recommend not broadcasting it as this moment until your sure what you really are, why not just label yourself in the mean time as 'you', watch what friends you tell as once they know you have fantasies or feelings for the same sex they will view you differently and even if you change your mind those views don't always disapear.
Hope that helps.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">