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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hey....
I would really love to see my girl touch herself as it turns me on big time, the thing is she will not do it for me. She says she doesn't even masterbate...!!!! I reasure her that it is a perfectly normal thing to do and she will find out more about what she likes, but she still says she wouldn't dare..

I always wank in front of her, I have no problem with that and she likes it.....she is younger than me but we have been together for 7 months and feel pretty comfortable.

Any advice people....thankx

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dnt make her do it if she dnt want 2.
    all gals r different in their approach. i think we all do it even if we say that we dnt-some r more open tho, about it, like me. i wood probly finger infronta my boyf if he asked me 2, dsnt bother me. however , everyones different.

    sorry - ive just realised wat an unuseful reply this is 2 ur query <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hmmm yep your right it doesn't help much but thanks anyway......I was kind of wanting to hear about ways to make her feel less embaraced about it, if you catch my drift...

    cheers
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How long have you been together?

    Its a pretty personal thing to do in front of somone, and im sure that as you're logether for longer she'll get to trust you more and more and eventually she might feel comfortable doing it infront of you.

    Until then- dont pressure her- it'll just mak eher even less likely to want to do it in front of you.

    Some girls really don't masterbate, and it is highly possible that shes one of these.

    Would she do it infront of you if she didnt even do it in private?

    I think not.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Your g/f definatly fingers herself but she is just embarssed to. She probably doesnt want u 2 know that she can do it better than u. Really turn her on summtime say u will do absolutly ne thing 4 her and I reckon she will budge xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by MandZ:
    Your g/f definatly fingers herself but she is just embarssed to. She probably doesnt want u 2 know that she can do it better than u. Really turn her on summtime say u will do absolutly ne thing 4 her and I reckon she will budge xx


    dont expect her to budge coz u turn her on,thats bull shit.thats like sayin if u turn her on,and bribe her by sayin u'll do nethin 4 her,ur jus expectin her to return the favour,and thats so selfish.
    maybe she doesnt want to do it infront of u coz its not her style.i wudnt do it,no matter how turned on i was.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    One good way of "encouraging" her to finger herself is while you are kissing or whatever is to put your hand on hers and guide her hand to her privates, dont take your hand of hers but let her play,
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It might seem tough but I've managed to talk an old g/f to try it. It takes a lot of time to get her to come around to the idea, so it's a no-go unless she trusts you very much. Lot's of girls do it but it's a very private thing for them; they don't shout it from the rooftops.

    First, tell her the truth, that it's your biggest fantasy and it really turns you on but don't pressure her. Second, get her comfy & relaxed, she won't do it if she's nervous, basically anything that relaxes her will help (music, massage etc). Third, don't make her self conscious - let her lie down and do not catch her eye. Two other things... you could try telling her a dirty story whilst she does it, to really get her going - or you can even join in yourself, since she likes to watch you already.

    Anyway, I hope this helps and if you talk her 'round to it then good job, it's mesmerising to watch! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; Any lasses on here tried it & can offer tips?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by MandZ:
    Your g/f definatly fingers herself but she is just embarssed to.

    Not necesseraly.

    Contary to popular opinion, not all girls finger themselves and your g/f may well be one of them.

    As i said before, dont pressure her,just let her do if and when she wants.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey everyone
    i dont have ne qualms bout masturbating in front of my b/f coz i know he loves it

    also, i can show him what i really want him to do - i dont get how he's just sposed to know what i like automatically

    maybe if you made it a joint effort...you could tickle her g-spot (damn i love that) while she touches herself

    maybe then she wont feel so embarrassed/shy; turn it into a sex thing instead of just you getting off on watching her do something intensely private

    good luck kiddo
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I masturbate all the time... I really think I'm sort of addicted to it ...

    B4 I thought it was really yuck... My Bf also wanted me 2 di it infront of him and I sortof rected like ur Gf. He did xactly like that buy said, told me it was his biggest fantasy. One night, my parents werent home, He undressed me, lay me on the bed and just started touching me, not down there, but all over, the breasts ... He took my hand, guided it down there, and it all came naturally, we did it 2gether.. It was the best thing that eva happened to me... I had an orgasm right there and then and it was soo cool..

    We now do it together, or he me I him ...

    Have fun, take it easy, don't pressure her to mauch and try to take her sort of by surprise, just di it !!!


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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I THINK THAT U SHOULD NOT PRESSURE URE G/F INTO FINGERING HERSELF IN FRONT OF U. SHE PROBABLY FEELS EMBARASSED ABOUT IT AND THINKS U WONT LIKE IT AS MUCH AS U THINK U WILL AND DOESNT WANNA DISSAPOINT U. THE THING 2 REMEBER IS 2 MAKE HER FEEL TOTALLY COMFORTABLE WITH U AND 2 TRUST U B4 U DO N E THING SEXUAL WITH HER AT ALL. WEN SHE FEELS LIKE THID THEN SHE SHOULD WANNA TRY DIFFERNT THINGS/POSTIONS.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dont make her do it!
    i wouldnt do it and to be quite honest i think you should ask your girlfriend if she likes you wankin off in front of her cos u said you THINK she likes it.
    ASK HER AND DONT FORCE HER INTO ANYTHING.
    its nasty.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think that the advice given to you to guide her hand down there and help her was good... i maturbate, but i wouldn't in front of my ex until he did that... it was such a turn-on watching him watch me.. and now i've got a vibrator that he bought me!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I had a Girl friend that asked ME to masterbate while she watched once. Reluctantly i did it but then she got exited, started giggling and sayign your wanking, your wankign in a irritating giggly little voice. Frankly I just wanted to nut her in the face i was so anoyed. I had to stop. My heart wasnt really in it anyway.

    She was quite a twat mind you. Anyway if you do get her to do it be careful how you react while your watching or you might get headbutted <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">. Dont laugh.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well my g/f only wanted me to finger her but not give it back, she would'nt do it in front of me either so i kinda kniw how u feel althought it does nothing for me.
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