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Fourteen and Confused!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Hi, I know you probably all know me from my 'introduce yourself' topic, but I'm Tara, I'm 14, and a bit confused <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">.

Please could someone explain to me, in a farely simple waym the aspects of 'sex' - what it's like, why people do it, what it's like etc. Reading all the different replys with different views has got me a bit muddled up and also there are a a few things I never knew in the first place <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">!

If you could just write in a short simple reply, then you would be a lot of help <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">, thank-you, *Tara*

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If there's one thing sex isn't, it's something you can describe in a short and simple reply.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    People have sex for different reasons. The ideal reason is for love, but that is far from the reality.
    Some people never have sex outside a relationship, like myself. Others cant get enough and do it with strangers, because they enjoy it. Then you get people inbetween.
    I cant really explain what it feels like for a girl because Im a lad so i cant help u with that. As for whats involved, it may be spontaneous, it may be planned. If it is your first time it is likely to be planned. If you are with the right person i guarentee that you will enjoy it and it will be better because you have the emotionla support there to. Im sorry i cant go into anymore detail, because to answer y we have sex would be impossible!
    luv ya
    Whowhere

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why people do it:
    Either because they want to because of their sex drives, because they're curious, or because they feel they have to because of pressure from their peers or the media, or a
    mixture of all these.

    Doing it because of pressure is a bad idea - you'll probably (almost definitely) regret it. Doing it just because you're curious isn't a very good reason either. Best reason is because you want to have sex with someone you fancy like crazy, and preferably because you love them and they love you.

    What it's like:
    Can be anything. Really mind blowingly good, Great, good, alright, bareable, boring, unpleasant, horrible.

    Basically it depends on who you are, who you're doing it with and why you're doing it as to how good it is. It tends to be simpler for blokes than women, both in physical and emotional terms (blokes tend not to mind so much about 'the right situation' and 'mood'). This does lead to quite a lot of blokes (Especially younger ones) who 'just want a shag' and find it difficult to understand women. This is an especially good reason to be careful, since there's plenty of people out there (not just men, but mainly) who are prepared to use others for sex. People who just go for selfish casual sex in my opinion don't know what they're missing (my friends with girlfriends agree).

    Even if you're completely inexperienced, if you're doing it with someone you love and feel completely comfortable with, it should be enjoyable (though probably quite humorous as you try to get the hang of it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; with mistakes along the way). Doing it in other contexts can be good too, but you're taking a risk (which isn't one worth taking in my opinion). Having sex with someone and thinking you care about each other, then finding out they don't give a shit about you is pretty horrible (plus lots of other problems).

    Sex is for most people a very personal thing (letting someone be incredibly intimate with you) so it can be quite complicated emotionally. Everyone has slightly different views on it as well.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't rush into having sex, especially if you are feeling confused about it. We have lots of articles that you can look at, just click on the links below.
    http://www.thesite.org/sex/general_sex/sex__whats_within_the_law.html
    http://www.thesite.org/relationships/lovelife/
    http://www.thesite.org/sex/sexual_health/
    http://www.thesite.org/sex/pregnancy/
    http://www.thesite.org/sex/general_sex/

    If you are especially worried about something specific, email info@thesite.org with your question.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sex is great! but only with the right person, if your with someone you like,its the most mind blowingly horny thing in the world! but don't rush into it 14 is a bit young i think. i lost my virginity at 14 and it was crap and i felt dirty and used coz he was just some random guy i met at a party. don't make that mistake.
    love and peace babe xxx
    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
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