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I'm just about to finish uni and i feel like i've wasted all my time here. My boyfriend lives in the city so i suppose that as an easy excuse, i'm seriously shy to the point i can't really hold a normal conversation (i'm not wierd) just really shy and i was wondering if what my mum says is true you make life long friends at uni (if it is i'm gonna kill myself now) i just wondered if anyone who'd left uni had any tips on how to make new friends after uni
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as for making new friends after uni - i guess a lot of it comes down to what you are doing - are you in work, or not?
but making friends anywhere, is pretty much the same deal of common interests, etc.
i suppose your shyness makes convesations difficult for you but you might find this aticle useful:
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/familyandfriends/friendships/makingnewfriends
and
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/familyandfriends/friendships/shyness
But you'll get less shy as you get older, as your confidence will grow in time. I wouldn't worry about it. The future is what you make it after all.
KITCAT4912 - it's certainly nothing to feel down about. As for shyness...go to the craziest gig advertised and go bonkers !! You know, shyness can be quite a sexy quality...
I've spoken to teachers before about uni, friends...how it all works out...they said, you meet good people there...but at the end of the day, you enter into work commitments when you leave, your new people are the ones you see everyday, becoming friends with them as you see each other often through work, and less time is taken dwelling over lost friends as you meet new friends, although there are sometimes one or two that stick by you...but rarely.
Cheer up cherub, it's different for everyone!
Malt xxx
You make friends after uni the same as anyone else does: work colleagues, people down the street, etc etc.
The thing about uni is you make a lot of acquaintances and a few friends. Turning an acquaintance into a friend depends on how often you see them and whether you continue to have shared interests.
Make the most of the friends you have made, and don't dwell on your regrets. Life's too short, trust me.