i'm so fed up.

Former Member · December 2004

hi everyone. i'm so fed up with my life. it sucks. i am so lonely, i have about 2 good friends and the rest r people who just let me down time after time. i dont have a social life and am never invited to go out places with anyone. all i do is work and go to college. my love life is not much better either. my ex makes me feel like shit everytime i c him and well basically, i just feel like a good cry. today i cried at college for no particular reason, it just kinda happened. there is this one guy i liked, who used to like me back and then situations got in the way and he dont talk to me anymore. and also, to top it all off it's my birthday on saturday and i just feel like crap. sorry.

Former Member · December 2004

don't know what to say except hugs and it does get easier.

I've been there too as have loads of others.

IM me anytime you wanna chat

look after number one

Former Member · December 2004

I'm not really sure what to say. I know you don't want to hear this but we've all been there from time to time (heck I visit dumpsville on a regular basis).

If your ex makes you feel like shit then stop seeing him.

Make time to see the two friends you consider yourself close to and work at that relationship.

Hope things pick up soon for you.

Former Member · December 2004

BumbleBee, I dont see my ex very often at all. i only see him around college and when i do, i say hi and he completely ignores me. he even told one of my close friends who he's also really close to that he hates the awkwardness between us, but when i asked him bout it all today when we sat next to each other by chance in college, he denies saying it to my friend and that my friend is making it up. he said today that the reason he doesnt say hi is cos his girlfriend hates it. apparently she doesnt like the fact that we go to the same college, but it's not like we speak to each other. oh well. i told him today i am not gonna bother with him anymore cos i cant be arsed.

theres also this guy i really like. my friend (the same one i mentioned above) introduced us and we got on really well. we then texted each other constantly for like 4 days and he spent all his credit on me. after that he would phone me occasionally from other peoples phones and would email and chat to each other at college. he would always tell me how much he liked me until he found out i wasnt a virgin. then he went off me all of a sudden. i emailed him at college and he never replied, but at college today we sat on the table next to him, and he kept lookin at me and he flicked a ring pull at my head which i have to say really hurt!

i dont really know where i stand with anyone anymore, i'm just really confused and sad about everything at the mo, i dont really know what to do with myself anymore. and with it being my birthday on saturday just makes me more sad. sorry i have gone on for so long, didnt realise i had written so much! i'm so fed up with my life.

Former Member · December 2004

Originally posted by **grunge gurl**
... he would always tell me how much he liked me until he found out I wasnt a virgin. Then he went off me all of a sudden. I emailed him at college and he never replied, but at college today we sat on the table next to him, and he kept looking at me and he flicked a ring pull at my head, which I have to say really hurt!

I'm sorry, sweetness, but anybody who behaves like that is not worth your time. One minute he's texting you, the next minute he finds out you're not a virgin, and all of a sudden he's throwing things at your head? Doesn't make much of a gentleman, does he, sweetheart.

If you're feeling vulnerable in other parts of your life, the last thing you need is a guy like this treating you like poo. I know it's hard when you're lonely and don't feel like you have much going for you - and I have to quote many of the above notes and say that you're not the only one in the situation, and that other people have been there, and yes... it does get easier - but eventually you will be able to look back on this when you're in a much happier 'place' and laugh about it all.

Just stay away from this other guy, would be my advise. You can do better than that. Good luck!

Former Member · December 2004

Cheers guys. xx

Former Member · December 2004

Originally posted by Bohemian
I'm sorry, sweetness, but anybody who behaves like that is not worth your time. One minute he's texting you, the next minute he finds out you're not a virgin, and all of a sudden he's throwing things at your head? Doesn't make much of a gentleman, does he, sweetheart.

If you're feeling vulnerable in other parts of your life, the last thing you need is a guy like this treating you like poo. I know it's hard when you're lonely and don't feel like you have much going for you - and I have to quote many of the above notes and say that you're not the only one in the situation, and that other people have been there, and yes... it does get easier - but eventually you will be able to look back on this when you're in a much happier 'place' and laugh about it all.

Just stay away from this other guy, would be my advise. You can do better than that. Good luck!

Ditto

Believe me, a boy who flicks ring pulls at girls when he finds out they aren't a virgin (I mean, WTF is that!?) is just that - a boy. You need a mature fella who's treats you as you deserve (i.e. fabulously) and nothing less. I find it hard to fathom someone would do that in all seriousness, but then again some young lads would be better suited to playgroup than college.

Like BumbleBee said as well, we really do all have these feelings from time to time. The culmination of too much work (college and your job) and not enough fun (boy trouble and lack of socialising) is going to make you feel down...you're probably run down and a bit blue, and no one could blame you for feeling that way.

Someone has already recommended that you focus on your relationship with those two friends, and that's definitely what you should do. Make plans with them and give yourself a break from studying and work when you can. Pay attention to making yourself happy; get plenty of sleep; nice food; have a girly night out at the cinema or somewhere to cheer yourself up. Maybe you could do something 'different' for your birthday, go somewhere with one or both of those good friends - for a meal or even something daft like bowling or paintballing

Or have a bit of retail therapy. Just dn't give a second thought to these cretinous boys...I assure you there is a fella out there who'll treat you superbly and have a mental age bigger than 3.

Happy birthday for Saturday, by the way...and smile

Former Member · December 2004

We all get into feelings like that sometimes. I used to be depressed for about a year, and it was all over a girl and having no social life and stuff. Hell, she even got together with an another guy right on my birthday. Right on that day. She spent the whole f***ing day with him, didn't even congrat my birthday. I am guy, but that really made me cry... It's funny now that i remember it, people coming to me, saying happy bd and stuff, then looking at my face and seeing emptiness. I'm not very proud of that...

Shit happens, all the time. What i found useful was taking up a martial art. I got away from it, realised that my crush is a great person, but also that it's better to have her as a friend. You could try something like that, socialising and boosting your self confidence in some way. Go out with your friends, have fun, get your thoughts off those negative feelings, and they will drift away.

Happy birthday, and just cheer up!:)
U can PM me if you like...

Former Member · December 2004

I do sympathize with you grunge_girl, we all seem to go through a stage in life where somehow friendships, work, school and lovelife seem to go spectacularly baddly around the same time! All the above advice is excellent and I don't really have anything to add other than advice I was told, which is to try to enjoy life, even the lows.

Best of luck and hope you have a happy birthday

el_dude

Former Member · December 2004

thanks guys...i break up from college tomoro so me and my friend are going shopping all day on friday so that should be good. i have also invited some people from work who i get on really well with round to my house on my birthday for a chinese, which should be fun. thanks so much for the advice.

Former Member · March 2005

I'm so fed up

Well, the bad news folks - is that it don't get no better. I still get so fed up too.
Grunge girl , the rest of the guys are right. If this "ex" makes you feel like sh*t, try and forget him (and I know it ain't easy, I been there and I got the T shirt) and try to find someone who makes you feel good. They do exist, honest.
'cept I'm 46 and I still keep finding the same old crap. Spose I'm past it now.

Teh_Gerbil · March 2005

Your ex is a looser, TBH. Get over him, its his fault, not yours. "Don't let them b*****ds grind ya down". Rember that quote, Lemmy knows best. :thumb:

Seriously though, im there now. It gets to me, but just live for the future. Never know what happens tomorow. Besides, if the Apocalypse happens in my lifetime, I want to see it.

On a seriouser note: (Really this time

) Forget that guy. Look for other guys if you want one, if not, enjoy yourself as you can single. I try my best, just think of the freinds you have, hang out with them whenever you can. Rember as well, being single means you can get away with being an irresponsible arse. Its fun. :yippe: The lonliness never goes away, but I can live with that. I've done so for ages. Often, time alone to think over odd random matters is good.

Advice? Go for a long walk, and plan some fun stuff to do. Get a bunch of mates together and do something stupid. It'll liven your time up.

Former Member · March 2005

Have a good birthday! Your ex sounds like a complete prick! Forget him! dont worry about other people! Just concentrate on yourself, you are the most important!

Former Member · March 2005

Just so you know this thread is a couple of months old

i'm so fed up.

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