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I am in a situation and i don't know what to do.
My sister has been married since i was 7 (now 15) but recently her husband has bee starting to make me feel very uncomfortable. He is 27 and would sumtimes get me drink (my sister doesn't know) and we have always been quite close. But recently he sends me e-mails now telling me he has feelings for me and things he would like 2 do to me (if u know what i mean).He says i have matured a lot recently etc and always asks me questions about what i do on a night out. I have no feelings for him like this and have never lead him on - i see him more as a brother.
This is really beginning to worry me but i don't want to say anything because my sister has enough problems to deal with at the minute but i now avoid visiting her and my nephews because of it.
Any suggestions are welcome.
Thanx.
[This message has been edited by DUMDUM (edited 04-12-2000).]
My sister has been married since i was 7 (now 15) but recently her husband has bee starting to make me feel very uncomfortable. He is 27 and would sumtimes get me drink (my sister doesn't know) and we have always been quite close. But recently he sends me e-mails now telling me he has feelings for me and things he would like 2 do to me (if u know what i mean).He says i have matured a lot recently etc and always asks me questions about what i do on a night out. I have no feelings for him like this and have never lead him on - i see him more as a brother.
This is really beginning to worry me but i don't want to say anything because my sister has enough problems to deal with at the minute but i now avoid visiting her and my nephews because of it.
Any suggestions are welcome.
Thanx.
[This message has been edited by DUMDUM (edited 04-12-2000).]
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I think you need to ask yourself a lot of questions like 'do you want you sister to know what is going on' or 'do you think you could cope with the aftermath if you tell her' and 'what sort of effect will this have on everyone if they know'.
Obviously I dont know your family so I dont know how you should go about this.
One of my friends actually snogged her brothers fiance and was starting to get close to him but she ended up telling her sister and it broke her whole family apart, but the sister stayed with him and they are all starting to get on a bit more now.
If it was me, I would confront the guy about this and really have it out with him, I would make it very clear to him that I was not interested in him and that I would never do anything to hurt my sister like that. I reckon hes probably cheated on your sister b4 because if he is trying to get it on with you, it sounds as though he would stoop to anything.
I think after youve done this is he didnt give up I would be the sort of person to tell my sister.
Obviously it is up to you to decide, different things work for different people, the other guys and gals should reply to you as well and they might have some good ideas 2.
I hope everything gets better, let us know how you get on when you work something out.
I will let u know how things go,
Thanx again. DUMDUM
I think you should tell him its not happening then if he doesnt get the pic i think ur guna have to tell your sis.
Good luck!!!
You say he is a good father but a guy who is really a good father would not go on like that. How would his kids feel if they ever knew? If he is such a good dad he would be concentrating on being nice to his kids, not making a beeline for you. He's a pervert and that's that. And if he loved your sister he would not be doing this. If he is unhappy in his marriage he should leave, not make a pass at his wife's kid sister who is not even legally old enough to have sex. (attempted statutory rape)!
The best thing to do is set the record straight. Tell him it'll never happen. If he still persists u really need to tell your sis.
If u want someone else to email him so he gets the message just let me do it. I can assure u he will never try it again after I've finished with the dirty bastard!
Good Luck, dumdum.
I sent the e-mail and he replied. He siad hes really sorry that he f***ed up and it will never ever happen again. So I said i wouldn't say anything thing but if it happens again I have proof and I will have 2 tell my sis.
Thanx 2 RedEd, Gwai Mui and every1 who posted - ur advice was a great help.
Dumdum
[This message has been edited by DUMDUM (edited 06-12-2000).]
[This message has been edited by DUMDUM (edited 06-12-2000).]
Lotsa Love!
Ju xxxxxxxx