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BillieTheBot
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I too read the article in the News of the World, and knowing my reply to the last post would be lost I posted a new one. I told them what I thought and why their information was a load of shit. I think this site is helpful, it has been to me and hundreds of others!
It isnt us to blame for the world's problems, it is the adults, if they tried harder to help us we wouldn't do do unprotected sex, we wouldn't make the wrong choices in life.
But they dont help, instead they criticse us and the people who help us. So well done to the site, I know I am new, but I feel strongly about this, that adults constantly look down upon us as "mistakes"
Thanx to people like Dom and Karla.
Ste
It isnt us to blame for the world's problems, it is the adults, if they tried harder to help us we wouldn't do do unprotected sex, we wouldn't make the wrong choices in life.
But they dont help, instead they criticse us and the people who help us. So well done to the site, I know I am new, but I feel strongly about this, that adults constantly look down upon us as "mistakes"
Thanx to people like Dom and Karla.
Ste
Beep boop. I'm a bot.
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The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.
isnt anyone gonna add something more meaningful??? lol
I second the fourth!
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.
And it can't miss out on being 17th ed. So there we go hehe
OK, can't be left out - I eighteenth it (& include the missing ones as well!)
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you can't blame it on the grownups all the time lol. Every generation has to find it's own way. If parents were more strict and made more restraints the result would just be more rebellion taking you to the same level.
People have changed, generation to generation all the way through history. I don't expect anything done by parents would change much.
The wrong choices will always be made, they have to be, it's human nature.
No-one is to blame.
I think that this site is a very important part of alot of peoples lives, is this the first time that young adults have had the support & friendship, controvesy & discussion, fights & fun that we have here?
You all know that I'm old, lol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> , this forum has given me the chance to see what problems and anxieties my children are going to come up against in a few years time.
It has also given me the chance to burn off steam & to try to help people by relating to my experiences of life.
No-one is telling any of us what to say, so press reports that imply that our attitudes are lead by thesite are rediculous.
We just talk about whatever we want. People that critisise should just read the posts, in context, and they would see the kind of things that bother today's young adults.
I'm gonna go now, otherwise I'll really start to ramble
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j9
Never thought I'd even slightly disagree with j9 <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> ...
We don't blame it on the grown-ups all the time and noone ever said stricter or 'more restraints': Whowhere said 'if they tried harder to help us' (my italics). Helping means better parenting to children, better advice and friendship as they grow up, helping people through the difficult process of growing up. In some ways, doing the same sorts of things that we try to do for each other on here. Ever wondered why more than average numbers of the people on here have problems, and lots of them either haven't in the past, or don't now get what they want and need from their parents?
It's my opinion that while it's not necessarily the parents' fault (they have their problems too in past and present), what they do and how they act makes a massive, massive difference - hell, you can see that from stuff on this site. I think some parents do more harm than good, ruining people's childhoods and even the rest of their lives sometimes. If parents acted in a 'better' manner society would be happier as a whole, because parents create society's future more than anything else.
Saying 'I don't expect anything done by parents would change much' goes against something I believe in - that trying, helping and acting on an individual level can make a difference to the bigger picture. The more people you help, the more people they'll be able to help... but never mind that, it's the principle that much of the activist and volunteer scene is built on, that individuals can make a difference. And I think they do. And I think there's no question that parents can.
It's true wrong choices will always be made, but fewer are made when people are not:
insecure and scared
abused
lonely (and desperate for love and approval)
uneducated (this is parent's fault as well as state's, if not more so)
mentally ill
And I say that all these things are greatly influenced by your experiences as a baby, as a child, and as you grow up, and that your parents are responsible for most of this one way or the other. Not exclusively or completely, but mostly.
That's also why I personally think that teenage pregnancies are a very bad idea. I'm not one to assign blame or to be absolutist - every situation and person is different, but in general teenagers are not mature enough to fully understand the responsibilities and the consequences of how they bring a child up (though I believe love and empathy can be enough) and often don't understand themselves or the world around them fully.
I know I don't and will still be learning for years yet - and I'm nowhere near the youngest here.
Still think ur great j9 <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Maybe stuff like that, though I was actually thinking about parenting lessons in the same way we have sex education nowadays. You know in some areas the government's been running 'better parenting' courses for parents to help them deal with their kids better, and courts are allowed to force parents to attend. Apparently women respond very positively to them and find it useful, men tend to try and get out of it or be uncooperative (lazy bastards).
Anyway, giving some sort of similar lessons at schools might head this off earlier(?). It might also help some children understand the problems their parents have with them better as well. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Just my thoughts.
I knew I shouldn't have been writing that so late, & I probably shouldn't be writing this so late either lol.
But what I was trying to say (I think) is that people, in general, will always make mistakes, they will always go against their parents ideals, especially at important times in their lives.
The majority of parents try to do the best for their children, they try to guide their children towards making the right life choices, but children will always rebel against adults, no-matter what we do. I understand that it is an important part of growing up.
I think that parenting classes are a good idea, after all, the only preparation we have to be good parents, is what is passed on by our parents!!!
When I said "I don't expect anything done by parents would change much" maybe I was being a bit to general. Of course we make a difference to individual children, but I think that unless ALL parents take the same interest & ALL give the right guidance, it's not going to make a difference to the trends of society. Maybe I was completely 'off topic' (I was tired). I just re-read this & it still doesn't get over what I was trying to say.
Oh god, I just seem so inarticulate at the moment.
Oh well, never mind, I know what I mean & I'll carry on trying as hard as I can to be the best parent I can to my children, I just know that they are going to rebel & ignore my advice at some point anyway. I just hope that all the groundwork will bring us out the other side without too many problems & hangups.
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