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Hi, I'm new to this forum business - but I need your help!
I wanna know what you think of sex education that you had/have at school?
Was it any good? Or did you get a better deal elsewhere? Where are schools going wrong and what needs to be done to get in tune with what young people REALLY think about sex.
I know that at my school they just went into the logistics of the whole thing, but nothing on the emotional implications of embarking on a sexual relationship.
what do you reckon?
I wanna know what you think of sex education that you had/have at school?
Was it any good? Or did you get a better deal elsewhere? Where are schools going wrong and what needs to be done to get in tune with what young people REALLY think about sex.
I know that at my school they just went into the logistics of the whole thing, but nothing on the emotional implications of embarking on a sexual relationship.
what do you reckon?
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There are a few posts on sex education in te Teen Pregnancy thread, just click on the URL below and, as if by magic, you will be taken there. http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum1/HTML/000300.html
Sex education was pretty basic when I was at school (back in the dark ages lol). We were told about different forms of contraceptive & different STDs. I can't remember being told about the mechanics, but I knew it by then anyway which is probably why I don't remember.
I said to my Mum once "it's odd you know, I can't remember ever being taught about sex, but I can't remember ever not knowing". She said it was because she answered my questions honestly, when I asked, as I was growing up. So we never had to have "the talk" and I got the answers I needed when I was ready for them, including the emotional stuff.
I'm using this approach with my kids & it seems to be going well.
I expect you'll get a response from quite a few people, welcome to the forum.
J9
My parents asked me when I had 'the talk' if I knew anything. Obviously I lied, because, like most parents, they were hidiously embarrassed and I really didn't want to make a bad situation worse! Kids lie about sex. Most of the time, that's due to parents' attitudes towards it. If sex is a taboo subject for adults, then it's obviously going to rub off on children. I praise you, J9 for answering their questions, hopefully they'll benefit from it!
I think it's a lot better if young children are told by their parents, as they'll hear things in the playground that sound terrifying and could cause all sorts of problems! At home, many parents will automatically flick over channels if they see a love scene, which confuses the child. Of course you don't want them to be watching porno films, but it's better if you explain it a bit and give them the opportunity to ask.
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http://www.thesite.org/sex/general_sex/sex_ed_is_it_any_good.html
ha ha ha condom on a carrot! I feel the same way as chica on this one. We had one lesson at about the age of 14 and it was a pile of pants! Made worse by the fact we were with boys and like most 14 year old boys they pissed about and got embarrassed, making it hard to concentrate. I learnt nothing about sex from my class at school, and instead got more outta my mum, friends, magazines and experiance (ha ha ha).
Welcome to the site by the way
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As you may have guessed I am planning on being a teacher and the whole sex education business scares me slightly, I mean how far do you go, in what detail to primary kids?
I am don't agree with the idea that teaching students about sex will just make them go and do it, surely you can never have enough info and it best to be safe, but there are some impressionable kids out there who don't get the support from home.
Keep ideas coming in, cheers!!
Yeah ok the girls learned about periods - they continually told us EVERYTHING about that - so much infact that it became possitively tedious! but as for SEX education - we got nothing, ziltch, nada, none!!
Thats why i asked who read more magazine becuase if it wasnt for that i wouldnt know anything!!
Im way too embasrrased to talk about sex with my parents - its not that i dont get on well with them its just that id feel wierd about it!
I duno - sex education should be equal in all schools cos as it stands some are particuarly good and others do none! And they wonder why we have so many teen pregnancies in this world!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
Nothing about how to say no or about teenage pregnancies.
It was basically an extention of biology.
We well pissed ourselves laughing! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
It was rather ridiculous cos loads of people had been at it for ages by this point.
Though it was quite amusing when we had to stick a condom on a cucumber and a friend of mine ended up breaking the cucumber!!!
I just felt sorry for her boyfriend!!!!!!
Keep the Vibe!
Is this the case for you? (I died of embarassment when, before I came to uni, at the age of 18 my mum sat me down and gave me a pack of condoms)
Did/do your parents talk to you about sex and do you think this is the best way to learn?
Or is there a better way, school, magazines, tv, mates??
What d'ya reckon??
parents - now thats just incredibly embarrassing, for both parties, my mum once forced me to read this book about ANIMALS, and there was one page at the back about humans, i think it was meant for people a lot younger! and i already knew it all by the time they got roundto mentioning it. my younger brother is gnerally mroe open i guess, just blurts out al this stuff and embarrasses my mum!
i think school is a good way because you get to learn about it with your peers and although some people can make it silly, like immature boys giggling, you do learn some stuff. we never got the vid of a woman in labour for some reason, and i think the demonstration of how to put a condom on would be helpfull! although probabyl embarassing and not that realistic. but thigns like knowing you can get pregnant the first time, you should use protection at all times of the month, etc, seems to have been lost on a number of people at my school, with several pregnancies i know of, and several scares for one naive friend.
now my mum sort of does talk about it with me becuase recently ive gone on the pill and talked ot her about it. and so now we can more openly discuss thigns like periods and things, more so than when i started and didnt even tell her, about 5 years ago! but unless parents are very open with their children and talk about sex with them throughout their life (like i think J9 and gwaimui have said they are doing with their children? i may be wrong), it can be very embarassing to discuss it with them when you reach puberty.
Just out of curiosity, u arent working for the government are you Wind??? Your question sounds very "official" if u ask me. Then again Im very paranoid and one of the few people who realises how much they control our lives AAAAGGGGGHHH lol.
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.
Don't worry Whowhere, I am not from the govt!
I am a final year undergraduate and am writing an essay on sex education.
My lecturer recommended thesite to me as part of my research, when I discovered I could actually ask the REAL people out there what they REALLY thought.
And I must say it has been extremely helpful to compare your views with those of the people in charge of sex eductaion curriculum. There is quite a difference between what young people want and what they actually get.
My Mum was open about sex as we were growing up, answering questions as they were asked.
When I was about 12 I can remember her putting a packet of sanitary towels in the bottom of my wardrobe and saying to me "they're are for when you need them, just let me know when you need some more". When I told her I did, she knew that I had started. It was so easy, but - I could never talk to her about sex, now I am an adult! Is that strange?
j9
School was pretty bad though not the worst I reckon. I think they were a bit cautious about the formal sex ed. they presented because it's quite conservative (little c and big C) down South and some parents are a bit protective and old fashioned. Quite a few of the teachers were quite relaxed about it all though and would give advice if people wanted it.
i think im going to have to decide to tell my children anything they want to know about sex whenever they ask! and be open with them which is a lot better. bet i get all embarassed now though! not that i can see myself having children much before im 30...
i think the sort of religions that ban sex education, or the use of condoms or methods of contraception (ie the catholic church) should really consider how this will affect people, especially young girls who are maybe going to put themselves at risk from STDs or pregnancy from not knowing and not being allowed to use contraception.
Some of them helpful & some of them downright silly & you can sit there & sift out what you need to know.
In the press we were portrayed as some kind of filth, but we are just ordinary people who are prepared to be open, rather than sniggering behind cloed doors.
I think that the forums ought to be printed into a book and published annually. The rest of TheSite could be included at the end, for people to find other stuff that hasn't been mentioned here.
I think it would make a best seller, especially with all the bad press. Maybe it would be banned & then it would sell even more copies!! lol
j9