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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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hiya guys, <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
i was just woundering,how can u make the first time special?im open to ideas!theres the thing about being in love to,do u really have to love someone to want to sleep with them?!?!
please enlighten me!!
cheers babesxxxxxx <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i read your other post....you really are worried. The thing is you obviously love him but you are just doubting yourself...

    Worry less and honestly just do what comes naturally....

    Kate
    xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kat:
    i read your other post....you really are worried. The thing is you obviously love him but you are just doubting yourself...

    Worry less and honestly just do what comes naturally....

    Kate
    xx

    thanx babes,im still worried tho!!
    dont suppose i would be normal if i wasnt an ickle bit worried tho!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, be worried but not so much. kat's right, u seem to have a lot of selfdoubt. personally i don't think ur ready, but ur call.

    u don't have to love someone to want to sleep with them, hell no. shit, i'd sleep with the next thing with tits that walked thru my door (banking on it not being my mum or sis lol), if thye were attractive. but to MaKE LOVE u gotta, well, LOVE someone. that' when it becomes special.

    good luck
    And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    turtle's right scaredycat.

    sounds like you have doubts... and that means u need more time.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah i dont think you sound ready. When i first had sex it hurt a iccle bit and i did bleed, but i didnt feel that scared cos i was totally relaxed with my boyfriend and we had discussed everything. He wasnt a virgin and didnt wanna sleep wiv me until i was totally ready. First time sex isnt very pleasurable (unless ur v.lucky) but believe me it does get loads better <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Just make sure when u have sex that ur totally ready cos u dont want to end up regretting nething.

    Jodiex
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    We all dream of making the first time special, make it the best... etc. But it rarely ever is in my opinion.

    Speaking from my own experience the first time was... well, it didn't really happen. I was strugling to get the condom on and we didn't have any foreplay or anything, so she wasn't wet and it just didn't go in, still I came instantly and that was it.

    This was with no real thought into the situation.

    My best advice would be to have lots of foreplay, and relax, then if you feel randy enough you'll just do it with no worries!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont bother planning anything special, cos if u plan it, it makes u worry more and then u'll worry it aint special and for your first time to be special it just gotta be with the right person, nuffin else matters. its better to just let it happen randomly rather than set a date and time etc. and do it where u feel comfortable, thats the only way to make it special
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    cheers guys,im feeling alot more relaxed about it already.im not going to rush into things,and im just going to let it happpen when the time arrives.i think its true that planning things can make you more nervouse,coz i suppose u know its going to happen.i dunno!!!!
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by Lonely-in-life:
    dont bother planning anything special, cos if u plan it, it makes u worry more and then u'll worry it aint special and for your first time to be special it just gotta be with the right person, nuffin else matters. its better to just let it happen randomly rather than set a date and time etc. and do it where u feel comfortable, thats the only way to make it special


    yeah i totally agree, id hate to have planned a date or something or thought in my mind "tonight's the night"... with me we just carried on what we did any other time and we realised we both wanted to do it then... so we did. well the first couple of times were a non event, techical probs with condoms and pain and stuff and him not staying hard with condoms and stuff like that... so it didnt count. the actual first time was nothing special, but i did love him and i wanted it to be with him, so it was special to us i guess. long time ago, lol you expect me to remember stuff from almost a year back? hehe

    Burn baby burn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    cheers guys!im so glad i finally hav sumbody to ask who wont laugh!!
    im just gonna let it happen!i cant wait now tho!!!
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