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A Problem with a buddie
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HI,
new here first thread and all,
I have a problem with a mate lets call him fred, I have a really wierd personally and tend to poke fun at everyone, thats just me,
Lately fred hasnt been too happy with things in his world, and i have tried to be a mate, tried to leave him alone and poked a bit of fun at him
now frd is really pissed off with me coz he thinks i fancey him, but i dont.
I really care about fred and dont like it when he's hurting coz it's really hard to try and make him feel better,
now fred isnt talking to me, and said he's throwing away a gift i got him for his 18th, which is his choise but i think he might re-gret it,
anyways what can i do!
new here first thread and all,
I have a problem with a mate lets call him fred, I have a really wierd personally and tend to poke fun at everyone, thats just me,
Lately fred hasnt been too happy with things in his world, and i have tried to be a mate, tried to leave him alone and poked a bit of fun at him
now frd is really pissed off with me coz he thinks i fancey him, but i dont.
I really care about fred and dont like it when he's hurting coz it's really hard to try and make him feel better,
now fred isnt talking to me, and said he's throwing away a gift i got him for his 18th, which is his choise but i think he might re-gret it,
anyways what can i do!
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I used to like him a lot
SBG
BTW i am definately not saying there's anything wrong with homosexual men (or women) just that some people think that there is??
I think I agree with SBG - it's probably just that your friend has noticed that you are caring about him snd has put 2 + 2 together with knowing that you are gay - and come up with 2 + 2 = 5!(so to speak) - You simply need to talk to him, tell him this is not the case, tell him you were concerned for him because he wasn't too happy, and that you were just "trying to be a mate" for him, and there was nothing more than that.
I'm sure if you try to talk to him and try to explain; I'm sure he will understand.
I think maybe you need to give him some space, as your attempts to cheer him up have obviously backfired and if you try to talk to him rationally when he's in such an irrational mood then it probably won't help.
I reckon you should tell him 'I'll be here if you need me, but I'm going to give you some space as I'm obviously not helping here and you've hurt me too, you know.'
Then let him be for a while. Most likely he'll get in touch but if he doesn't after a couple of weeks you could give him a call again. Just don't push things.
I am giving him space now, and i know he sometimes reads the site, so he might read this with some luck,
thankx for all your comments that's kinda helped
The last time we fell out he told his friends lots of things about me and him, making it look worse on me than him, so as good mates do they stick up for him,
but when were mates again he doesnt tell them to leave off when im talking to him so i end up telling them to exridite them selves from my pressance,
i dont blame him for that, but if he wasnt too scared of having them think he's able to forgive me and be my mate, he would tell them that were mates,
and he cant do that and it hurts because i stick up for him, and he cant return the effort
Talk to each other, not to other people in front of each other. That's just rude.