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i just feel really used and worthless. i'm feeling really isolated and lonely, yet i know people care about me. i always get like this before my birthday, which is why i hate my birthday, because i always end up getting really depressed over it.
and i seem to feel really dirty after kissing a guy or being with a guy, this was another reason i spilt up with my ex, who has really fucked me around over getting back together. he really prayed upon my feelings for him and then just told me to fuck off when he'd had his fill.
i've only ever had 2 exsperiances with guys were i feel like i haven't been totaly messed around, and neither were/are when i've been in a relationship with the guy.
i don't understand why i feel like this.
and i seem to feel really dirty after kissing a guy or being with a guy, this was another reason i spilt up with my ex, who has really fucked me around over getting back together. he really prayed upon my feelings for him and then just told me to fuck off when he'd had his fill.
i've only ever had 2 exsperiances with guys were i feel like i haven't been totaly messed around, and neither were/are when i've been in a relationship with the guy.
i don't understand why i feel like this.
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If you feel guilty about it afterwards then perhaps you aren't ready for it. You want more than just a quick teenage fumble in the park, and I think that is perfectly reasonable and a desire you should feel proud of, not ashamed of.
Birthdays are always terrible if you feel a bit isolated or lonely, because it feels like everyone else is having a fantastic borthday with 450 of their closest friends.
Bit of a generalisation there, i'm 19 next month and i'm not like that at all. In fact i'm fed up with teenage girls messing *me* about :rolleyes:
girls are as bad. in my hey day, i remember telling this really nice, sincere guy that i couldn't go out with him cause i was 'not ready for a relationship. the very same day, i got together with his best mate.
i suck
to be honest, i seriously don't care about the fucking part of relationships. thats an extra. i crave the closeness that so many people absolutly hate.............:( why can't teenagers be nice for a change?
i've had 3 birthdays alone, and 2 birthday parties which no one came to. one because everyone at my school was hell bent that i was a satanist, and another because i'd just moved into the area and i had no friends. life fucking sucks sometimes
LOADS of people hate birthdays.
theyre always a bit of an anti climax in my opinion.
So very true.
Try not to think about it so much, to concentrate on the good parts, whatever they are for you. There must be some, just ignore the rest.
and you may just get close with someone, in the way you want too
take care alrite
Me too. I hate being lonely, it's the worst feeling.
You're horrible
It's simple. It seems to me you don't have much self-esteem. So, you let these guys walk all over you. What you need is more confidence and to demand respect from these men. You make a guy wait, he'll appreciate you all the more.
I think thats a big generalisation - I'm 15 and I'm not like that (well I hope so)
Again I think thats not fair, SOME 13-19 year olds are like that - I dont think its fair to tar us all with the same brush.
yup - but being demanding in itself isnt always a sign of self confidence, can be a control freak then, just gaining respect by having self respect is best way :yes:
well someone like to enlighten me on how i can achive self confidence and respect?
all start from there i believe
probably seems like complete bull to you...