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Is she cheating on me?
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I've suspected for some time now that my girlfriend has been having an affair. The usual signs. Phone rings, I answer, someone hangs up.
She started going out 'with the girls' a lot recently although when I ask which girls it is always "Just some friends from work, you don't know them". I always look out for her taxi coming home but she always walks down the drive although I can hear a car setting off, as if she has got out of the car round the corner. Why? Is it not a taxi?
I once picked her mobile up just to see what time it was and she went beserk and screamed that I should never touch her phone again and why was I checking up on her.
Anyway, I have never approached the subject with my girlfriend. I think deep down I just didn't want to know the truth but last night she went out again and I decided to check on her.
I decided I was going to hide behind my car which would give me a view of the whole street so I could see which car she gets out of. It was whilst crouched behind my car that I noticed rust around my rear wheel arch.
Should I take it into a body repair shop or should I buy some stuff from Halfords and try to repair it myself?
She started going out 'with the girls' a lot recently although when I ask which girls it is always "Just some friends from work, you don't know them". I always look out for her taxi coming home but she always walks down the drive although I can hear a car setting off, as if she has got out of the car round the corner. Why? Is it not a taxi?
I once picked her mobile up just to see what time it was and she went beserk and screamed that I should never touch her phone again and why was I checking up on her.
Anyway, I have never approached the subject with my girlfriend. I think deep down I just didn't want to know the truth but last night she went out again and I decided to check on her.
I decided I was going to hide behind my car which would give me a view of the whole street so I could see which car she gets out of. It was whilst crouched behind my car that I noticed rust around my rear wheel arch.
Should I take it into a body repair shop or should I buy some stuff from Halfords and try to repair it myself?
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What car did your gf get out of?
Have you not thought of just approaching the subject with her?! I know it's hard because she'll perceive that you don't trust her, but you have enough to say that would bring forth an honest argument that she could be cheating. If she finds you crouched behind the car...well although examining rust on your car is a feasible (and sadly accurate!) excuse...it's not the proper 'mature' way of approaching the subject and getting honest answers. You're just gonna have to go for it, the only way to get an answer is to ask a question so...I hope you do before it eats away at you...much like that menacing RUST...good luck
Malt Munk xxx
It started with coming home late the odd day, then night out with "friends from work", etc. Then nights staying at "friend's" places. It was obvious by then. The denied it, called me a few choice names when it was obvious what I was getting at when questioning her, denied it totally, tried to make me feel guilty for bringing it up, and trying to make out that everything was my fault, and it was my questioning her, suspecting her, etc that caused the end of the relationship. Bitch!
Then there were the constant text messages, being secretive, never leaving her phone where I could get it, etc.
Anyhow, I did eventually find the evidence I needed to know I was right, and know exactly what was going on.
She's cheating on you. Simple as that. Although it seems sad to follow, lurk, etc, just catching her out that once will help you know you were right, and that your suspicions were justified.
By accident I caught my ex out. She had been telling half truths about where she was, and (I suspected) some outright lies. Then one day I had to drop some forms off at the Uni, and drove up. The road was about half a mile beyond where we lived, and totally the opposite direction from where she worked. I got stuck in traffic, and suddenly realized that my girlfriend was walking along the pavement just ten yards in front of me with someone else who I recognized as her manager from work. The traffic crawled along, so I kept just behind them for a while. If she'd looked over her shoulder she would've seen my car just a few yards behind her. Eventually the traffic ground to a halt and I was stuck in it, and they carried on walking. Thing is, her manager lived a bit further up the road (though I didn't know where), and because of being stuck in traffic I didn't see where they went.
I didn't say anything about seeing her for a few days.
Then we were chatting, and she said something about not coming straight home. I said something like "going up ****** Avenue again?" She said she hadn't been up there. I said "on Friday" She gave me one of those fake quizzical looks as if to say "I don't know what you mean". So I explained that I had to go up there and was stuck in traffic, etc. You could just see the look on her face change and hear the cogs and gears whirring in her head as she realized she'd been caught out and was thinking of an excuse. "Oh.... I just went for a coffee after work. I'd forgotten about that." Yeah, as if. The look on her face gave her away, she'd been caught lying, and hiding up the fact that she'd gone up to the area where her manager lived.
Now, it is quite feasible they did go for a coffee, as there are plenty of coffee shops up there, and it's something we used to do. And I did loose sight of them eventually as I was stuck in traffic, so I didn't see where they ended up. But what do you think was most likely? Coffee? ...Or back to his place?
Anyhow, as I said, I eventually found absolute proof, though never confronted her about it as the way I found out was a bit devious, but irrefutable proof.
She broke my heart at the time, but looking back I'm glad to see the back of her.
Dude, everyone seems to be taking this girlfriend thing more seriously. Lets face it, it was probably her driving that put the rust there anyway, and that's a ditchable offense. How was halfords?
it's a joke that originally made more sense on this car enthusiast boards.
nice one though, the fact people thought you were serious made it 10x funnier
Oh Kiezo, it was off another forum
Malt Munk xx:)
The top post in this thread is the same as the top post in Kiezo's link.
That was the idea :razz: If he posted it in Anything Goes he'da got all the people in there that hadn't caught on going "OMG THIS SI TEH WRONG FORAM!!!!1`~#".
I hope he didn't cheat.
Oh, I'll let you off then;)