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hey all, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly three months now and it just seems so hard to keep it going I don't know why, but he don't seem to care no more 
I feel like giving up. I have spoke to him about this before and he just goes I'm tired recently blah blah blah I'm like yeah what ever.
The thing that gets me down is that I love him to bits and I couldn't bring myself to dump him and I don't want to, I'm just so unhappy at the moment. He doesn't seem to put any effort into this relationship at all. Help please
I feel like giving up. I have spoke to him about this before and he just goes I'm tired recently blah blah blah I'm like yeah what ever.
The thing that gets me down is that I love him to bits and I couldn't bring myself to dump him and I don't want to, I'm just so unhappy at the moment. He doesn't seem to put any effort into this relationship at all. Help please
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So six months down the line, we broke up for a month to just get some space and do our own thing. We got back together and things have definitely improved. We both realise we've got a good thing, a scarily good thing.
He does appreciate me more, and makes arrangements to see me, and such. He chases after me, more than he did before. More than I did with him in the beginning.
We still argue now and then, but only because our temprements are sooooo alike. We make up like there's no tomorrow
I'd recommend having one big discussion with him, then backing off. See how he copes not having his Missus chase after him. He'll soon be phoning you wondering what's going on.
If all else fails, I'd also recommend a wee break apart to make you realise that you don't take what good a couple you could be, for granted.
Good luck!
Hrm, well I got to the root of my boyfriend's problem with committing and it's really smoothed stuff over.
I'd suggest asking him why he wants to be with you if he's not dedicating as much time as what normal couples do.
You deserve better if you're pussyfooting about him. No one deserves second best treatment from their so-called boyfriend.
Has he got trust issues/commitment issues/ex girlfriend problems?
If you mean sexually, and he passed it off as a fib you're better off without the tosspot. :impissed:
Um what else, he lost my virginty to me but it's just the cold shoulder since "the incident"
And i don't know what else to say, apart from being with someone can be very lonely sometimes
If you re-read her previous posts, I think she's implying her boyfriend's MATE raped her - not her boyfriend himself.
And Ice-Babe - harsh as it is, you're holding onto a guy who sees you as a conveniency, rather than his adoring girlfriend.
You said so yourself he pisses you off so much - which you mentioned is a hard thing to do. I think you know yourself you can't change him and that you're causing alot pain to yourself, physically and emotionally by holding onto a guy who doesn't have any respect for you.
That's not love. Love is something dished out equally between two people. You're doing all the giving, and he's doing too much taking and not reciprocating. So early into the relationship as well, it doesn't look good petal.
I'd say spin him on his ass and move on.
I'd still ask you to go to the police as well as Family planning to see if you're STD free/pregnant and so on.
Hope you feel better soon.
I was like this with my current gf because of a shitty arse ex who screwed with me. Its slowly got better over a space of 2yrs (not 3months) and I still do a lot of stuff just with my mates and she is a sound lass and she accepts this, just like I accept her seeing her mates whenever she wants. Go out with your mates instead of bothering about being with your bf. Hope some of this makes sense.