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Grr arg.
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The one guy I love doesn't seem to understand me at all. He just told me to fuck off cos I got upset that he hasn't texted me in a week, and then all he had to say this morning when he texted me was 'Meep. Xx' So i sent a sarcastic text back - cos I'm bloody upset! And he says, 'Oh fuck off, fine i won't fucking speak to you then.'
It feels like he doesn't understand me at all, and now I feel completely unloved, from the so-called love of my life.
This may sound really pathetic, but I'm sorry I just had to write it somewhere cos I'm not texting him back for fear that I'll say something angry and stupid.
It feels like he doesn't understand me at all, and now I feel completely unloved, from the so-called love of my life.
This may sound really pathetic, but I'm sorry I just had to write it somewhere cos I'm not texting him back for fear that I'll say something angry and stupid.
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meh, it just feels like he's playing me around!!!!!
But when he's not being a dick, he's the best person in the world. Arg!
I have a similar thing with my boyfriend to a lesser extent, it does irritate me when he hasn't seen me for days and I text him asking him if he wants to do something tomorrow or how he is etc. and he just never texts back - but then I think a lot of men just simply can't be bothered or don't see the importance of responding.
I guess all you can do is wait until the next time you see him or give him a call and just tell him that you don't want to come across as obsessive or anything but when you haven't seen one another for a few days it would be nice if he could contact you or respond to your messages, just to show that he is thinking of you, he does care and he appreciates the fact that you bother to message him.
Good luck with it anyway, I hope hes a bit nicer and more understanding about it that he seems to be at the moment!
So anyway, i was thinkin about it and my mates tell me i should try take things less serious. Then I realised, previous bf's have claimed to love me and it made no real difference, they still took me for granted or treated my like shit so i figured, providing i'm happy with this guy now him loving me won't make all that much of a difference because it sure as hell won't guarantee happiness in my life, no more so than already. I know that kinda doesn't make sense that i'm happy even though he doesn't contact me too often, but when we are together i'm so overcome by the joy in me that it doesn't matter that he doesn't bug me with constant messages, providing i know he cares for me, which he shows when we;re together and he fusses over me, some of the other things don't seem so important, like romantic guestures, not so regular messages or whether he loves me.
When are people going to realise that instead of all this "didn't reply" texting bollocks - just pick up the fookin' phone and ring them if you want an answer! :mad:
Back in my day (lol - I`m 25) we didn't have all these nice simple yet faceless methods of communications - just the phone or a letter! I hate texting (and I work for Nokia which is just wonderful) and would much rather a person rang me if they want to know something. I will only text somebody, for example, to let them know I'm going to be a few minutes late or something similar. Otherwise I ring them.
Honestly - just ring the buggers and half of this bollocks won't be a problem.
G.
Just to Clarify, Ryoko Rock girly - had YOU tried getting in touch with HIM during the week that he was out of contact with you?!
If not, then, well - why not? It can't fall just to one person, don't you know?! :rolleyes:
If so and he just didn't respond - then I fall back onto the "just ring the bugger" angle. Texting is SO not the way to sort relationship issues out.
Perhaps the "love of your life" (and I also hate that phrase...) just ain't what he used to be and could be moving onwards...
G.
Yeah well whatever :P
xxx
I just thought I'd cut through the bullshit and give you a point of view from a slightly different, older (and male) angle. If you don't want to listen, then fair enough, but I believe that I made some very good points in my posts that, as I mentioned, would go a long way to stopping half the shitty posts on here about "He never replied to my text" or "he doesn't text me". JUST USE THE PHONE AS IT WAS ORIGINALLY INTENDED.
I wasn't going to pander along with the whole "ooo - he's such a bastard" way of thinking - and I believe I was right not to. You haven't given any information about any "effort" that you put into sorting your situation out. Perhaps you have, perhaps you haven't - but if you're going to just ignore good advice, then perhaps you shouldn't bother posting your "problems" in the first place!
Some people just refuse to learn, eh? "Yeah well whatever :P" - hardly the response of a person who really does want to sort her situation out, is it?!
Think about it.
G.
Sorry if I seemed immature, but really I just sorta wanted to get out my frustration, so yeah I probably did seem immature. But technically we're ok now, we both apologised, so....yeah....
No offence intended
Either way, I'm glad you got it all sorted out now!
Gx