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Marriage & double barrelled surnames
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The trend nowadays I see alot is that people tend not to do the traditional wife gets husbands surname. So they do the Mr & Mrs something-something instead.
I like this idea cause it's like you're starting your own surname generation/family & also it's like a joining of two separate individuals from different families which I suppose what marriage does anyway but one surname isn't lost.
Enough babbling:D
With this Mr & Mrs something-something can anybody do it or does the surname have to be legally registered or could just signing the wedding papers Mr & Mrs something-something make the couple Mr & Mrs something-something instead of Mr something & Mrs something?
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I like this idea cause it's like you're starting your own surname generation/family & also it's like a joining of two separate individuals from different families which I suppose what marriage does anyway but one surname isn't lost.
Enough babbling:D
With this Mr & Mrs something-something can anybody do it or does the surname have to be legally registered or could just signing the wedding papers Mr & Mrs something-something make the couple Mr & Mrs something-something instead of Mr something & Mrs something?
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I don't see the point of double-barrelled names. They were invented for daughters of the top families to keep their name, and beyond arrogance they serve no purpose. Where do you stop?
Mr Smith and Miss Bloggs become the Smith-Bloggses. What happens if Miss Smith-Bloggs meets a Mr Jones-Taylor? It gets stupid.
Suppse mr. Jameson and miss Drake got married. Both keep their names. Their sons are named Jameson and their daughters Drake. The only "problem" I see with this idea is that you couldn't tell they're siblings by their surnames.
However, my parents both actually have legally different surnames. My father just has one surname, without the hypen and my mother has the hypen, BUT they both go under the hypenated surname. Neither my brother or I have the hyphen in our names but my mother's maiden name is one of our middle 'family' names.
I don't think it is anyone elses business what people choose to call themselves as long as people don't do it to defraud anyone else.
Everyone has double-barrelled surnames, father's name first (usually). They then keep one of the names and when they marry the male spouse gets his name first (again, usually) and so it goes on.
I don't see the point of having both myself, but everyone's entitled to their own opinion...like Bumblebee said, as long as they're not hurting anyone, let people do what they like. My friend decided to have both names after she got married, but I think that's because she didn't want to be Mrs Mould, personally! So she calls herself Mrs. Mould-Ryan. I told her she ought to be glad her maiden name wasn't Green.
my mother couldn't wait to take my dad's name for exactly the same reason.
i think people should do what they want, personally. i will take my husband's name because i'm traditional, and that's what i want. if it makes you happy keeping your own name, that's cool too.
hyphenating wouldn't work for me though, cause my surname is 10 letters long and mr kaff's is 9, and my first names are 9 letters and 10 letters long respectively, so my name just wouldn't fit on forms, or anything. and my children would probably never forgive me.
Isn't that the best reason TO do it?
I don't think "ooh, there goes an arrogant person" if they have a double-barrelled name, I just don't see the point of them as a general rule. Maybe it's the traditionalist in me, I dunno.
The only people i know with double barrelled names are children who's parents are not married so they take on both of their parents surnames.
I always wondered though if i chose not to take on my husbands surname and kept mine would i have to be 'Ms my surname' or would i be 'Mrs my surname'?
Growing up I had the hypen in my name at school and doctors etc even though on my birth certificate it wasn't like that, no hyphen. Kids took the piss so I dropped it when I went to secondary school. I wish I'd kept it now as I might have been considered posher at university!
hmm i actually quite like my surname as it makes me one of a kind. I got no end of grief when i was younger with this surname with local kids bullying me for where i went to school, how i talked and what "wealth" they thought i had (thats a laugh that one). So i've actually put up with a lot from this surname so i reckon that i shouldn't really be ashamed of it anymore because it's part of me. God know's what i'll do if i ever decide to marry. Better choose someone who's surname fits in well to make it a triple barrelled name
I used to get teased at school for being posh, but actually I'm far from it. It's just my dad's family name that my mum took when she married my dad, and that I happened to inherit when I was born.
If I do get married though, I'll probab;y change it to my husbands name, just because I'm traditional like that.
me, my 2 sisters and my mum and dad had our surnames changed when i was young. one of my sisters and my dad changed theirs back and then my mum got married and took on a new surname. my other sister recently married so i'm the only one left.
It's never too late.
Might be a bit of a hassle with passports etc though.
You don't have to tell official bodies that you have changed your name you can go under any name you like as long as you aren't foing it to defraud anyone. Your passport can still have your official name on so long as when you book tickets etc you remember which name to book under.
If I was gonna do it, I should haeve done it at the time and before we had babies.
hardly morons :rolleyes: i suppose if you come across something youve never heard before you instantly know how to spell it do you?
anyway i think its a bit excessive to have a 3+ barrelled name