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B/F trouble...
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I am really peed off!
Im workin over-time and very knackerd and my b/f expects me to see him every day, and have sex every day.... now dont get me wrong, i love sex! But when Ive been workin 7 in mornin till 6 at night, Im knackerd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If I dont want to do nothing, like go out, he'll have a mardy and storm off:mad: He acts like a 16 year old kid at times, he spends money like water:mad:
He wants me to have this Friday and Saturday off, cos he's off and he doesnt have alot of days off, but cos I need the money, and on saturday its time and half, he is having a really big strop about he hardly gets days off ect....... but i really need the money!! Ive told him, but he says I'm more important than money.... yeah he is more important, but I need to pay me car off, petrol money for it and pay bills!
He just does me head in, I love him and everythin one minute, but the next I think 'I dont really know you':( I dont want to loose him, but I cant carry on like this...... I will finish it if he carries on:(
Sorry if I seemed to rant on, or it doesnt make sense.
Any comments welcome!:)
Im workin over-time and very knackerd and my b/f expects me to see him every day, and have sex every day.... now dont get me wrong, i love sex! But when Ive been workin 7 in mornin till 6 at night, Im knackerd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If I dont want to do nothing, like go out, he'll have a mardy and storm off:mad: He acts like a 16 year old kid at times, he spends money like water:mad:
He wants me to have this Friday and Saturday off, cos he's off and he doesnt have alot of days off, but cos I need the money, and on saturday its time and half, he is having a really big strop about he hardly gets days off ect....... but i really need the money!! Ive told him, but he says I'm more important than money.... yeah he is more important, but I need to pay me car off, petrol money for it and pay bills!
He just does me head in, I love him and everythin one minute, but the next I think 'I dont really know you':( I dont want to loose him, but I cant carry on like this...... I will finish it if he carries on:(
Sorry if I seemed to rant on, or it doesnt make sense.
Any comments welcome!:)
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We do normally days off together, but cos its really buisy at work, I've been doing over-time. I really need the money tho, I've just had a new car and need to pay for it! Its like he's not on the real world, he thinks my car will get paid by it's self...... he's a typical man when it comes to money!:mad:
Maybe you should simply explain to him that you're very tired after work and generally are not in the mood for sex. If he's a good lover he should simply accept that your love life is going through a rough patch and it won't be permanent.
he sounds like he's being abit immature and selfish - just tell him straight that although he's important, you have to pay for your car! have this talk with him+then tell him you are going to work over the weekend, bcos you need the money+see what his reaction his!! He should hopefully understand
If you are always putting work ahead of him then one has to wonder whether there is any point having a boyfriend.
Sure people need to work, but I'd be a bit put out if my girlfriend was always working so I never got to see her.
If you aren't prepared to put him ahead of work at least some of the time then you need to consider whether you do actually love him or not. Yeah, time and a half is important, but it's only money at the end of the day.
Oof, that was a bit blunt.
That is what I was meaning though. If money is more important then you have to wonder if he actually does mean that much to you.
I disagree strongly. By the sounds of it she has her head screwed on !!
She knows she has bills and is trying to make sure the bills are paid, so how does he have a point ? If the bills dont get paid then she's in deep shit, not him.
I say tell him how it is, tell him you need the money so you have to work and you dont intend being a dosser, if he dont like it then say bye bye :wave:
Right now, the way I'm feeling, I'd be inclined to agree but if you are really struggling for money right now then a bit of understanding from him wouldn't go amiss. However, if you're always short of money and always having to work extra hours then he does have a point and maybe you should consider changing your job or situation.
You need to compromise, he's your boyfriend and he should be able to spend time with you.
Money can pay bills and all that, but it might ruin things with your boyfriend and it can't really buy happiness.
There has to be a compromise, but if you are getting angry because he is wanting to do something that interferes with what you want to do then sorry but one has to question why you are with him.
Everyone needs money, but all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. If you aren't prepared to make time for him then say goodbye, but don't try and make out that it is him that's being the unreasonable one.
Its ok if he works all weekend though, but if I get a little bit of over-time, then he says I dont want to be with him.......... ect:rolleyes:
Talk to him and re-assure him.
I have talked to him today cos I aint been at work. He does understand that I need money and stuff. He just thinks everytime I see him I wanna shag him!:rolleyes: Oh well.