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God you girls do ma head in..
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Well.. just a bit confused.
I split up with my ex about 4-6weeks ago, we got on great had fun days out ect but it was to soon after her last relationship, she said she wanted some space, I though ok. 6weeks down the line and she's still saying the same thing, that I can deal with but I meet someone. we get on well have fun and she likes me i like her, now my ex frowns upon me meeting new people, shes says things like "oh you gone of me then" and "of you forgot about me" I don't know what to say though because NO i haven't forgot about her, YES i would be with her if she wanted me, I keep telling her this but she doesn't believe me.
it seems like she wants me to like/want to be with her but not be with her,
What do I do..
many thanks
I split up with my ex about 4-6weeks ago, we got on great had fun days out ect but it was to soon after her last relationship, she said she wanted some space, I though ok. 6weeks down the line and she's still saying the same thing, that I can deal with but I meet someone. we get on well have fun and she likes me i like her, now my ex frowns upon me meeting new people, shes says things like "oh you gone of me then" and "of you forgot about me" I don't know what to say though because NO i haven't forgot about her, YES i would be with her if she wanted me, I keep telling her this but she doesn't believe me.
it seems like she wants me to like/want to be with her but not be with her,
What do I do..
many thanks
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i could be wrong, but it sounds to me like she cant accept the fact that you've started to move, i.e. she doesnt want you, but doesnt want anyone else to have you
it depends upon how you feel about her+this new girl: if you really like her, then i reckon you should go for it with her+try to forget your ex, but if you still care for your ex then you may be better off waiting to see how your feelings turn out in a few weeks!
Hope all that rambling helped
SBG
Maybe shes like most other girls and likes the attention of someone liking her? The more you show that you like her the more shes gonna lead you on and its not nice in the end.
But maybe shes one of the few nice girls and dont want to hurt you so shes trying to keep things cool between you. I dont see why she wont get backwith you if she likes you though.
You have probably spoke to her about this already but i think you need to draw a line. You need to ask yourself and her "are we gonna get back together or not?". Is so then get back together, if not then move on.
good luck mate, keep us informed
Anyways, don't think it's fair your ex is being hard on you for trying to move on. If she's made it clear she ain't ready to get involved with you coz her heads messed up with her ex then she can't expect you to wait for her like a little lost puppy. Maybe this will make her appreciate you a little more, and possibly wanting you back now coz she now knows you won't be waiting for her.
Hmmm.... try talking to her. Don't drop hints, just tell her straight. Yes you're trying to move on but make it clear if she wants to be with you, you are willing to get back with her. If she still insists she needs time. Then still except her friendship but don't go with this other girl, using her till you get back with your ex. That's just wrong.
Ask for a straight answer - yes or no because it will get old piss- assing about! She could just be unsure- she could like the fact that to others she's perceived as single,but she still has you to fall back on, or it could be that she's just waiting for someone else to want her so she can just skip straight onto someone new without the lonely evil after relationship singlessness feeling. I wouldn't move on with this other girl merely because you obviously still have feelings for your ex and if you did get with this new girl and she said "Actually, I do want to be with you" you'll get all tied up in knots, but maintain friendship with this new girl, possibly explain the situation you're in- that you still care for your ex and you're worried moving on too quickly we leave you with regrets and you'd rather sort it all out and not carry a load of baggage into the next relationship.
Good Luck
that was my advice too ...
Just dump her and get it out of the way.
we're not together, but she gets upset or mad when i start to move on,
However if you were taking a 'break', then I'd say it was different.
"oi u shit head. Thanks 4 telin me u ad anotha bird. N u just used me 4 da hospital no wonder u aint spke 2 me. Thanks alot I thort I wux your m8. Emailed u 2"
sorry for text talk but i copied it straight from the text,
Anyway I texted her saying, I didn't know her before I had my operation, I didn't use her then and she's still a friend. She keeps saying it's bullshit, WTF.. I am a friend, does me having a gf mean we can't be mates, if so... I dunno what to do.
Well I still believe it's unfair the way she's having a go at you as it's not like you ended it with her and met this girl. She was the one that wanted to be just mates.
Though gotta ask... as wasn't to sure - Did she make it clear she only liked you as friend as her heads messed up etc - Or was she just wanting time apart before you both got back together, when she was ready?
she said she couldn't have a relationship with me because her text and that text I posted said I thought we was mates so yea.. she did.
It's fucking annoying because I like her as a friend.
she isn't... she just gets mad that I have someone else,
Tell her to grow up, then stay the hell away from her.
Just ignore her.
I agree entirely. If she was friend material then she wouldn't be mind fucking you like this. She sounds like a psycho so she's best left alone
Well hold on there, she does have a point. You should have warned her about it. You may not have seen her but you obviously had her number to call/text/e-mail - Whatever...
Though still doesn't give her the right to bite your head off... as she can't expect you to just be waiting for her like a little lost puppy.
Try your best to explain to her how you don't want to lose her friendship but you also can't put yourself on hold for her. You can only do soo much.
Well she doesn't have the right to be pissed off with you, so I suggest you ignore her until she can behave a bit more reasonably. She's jerking your strings, don't dance to her tune whatever you do.
Thanks, I stopped repling to her text's I need to think about this before we talk and I will deffentley not lose my gf over this so I need to make sure it's the right thing to do.