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Long(ish) distance relationships.
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I have recently started going out with a guy called Rob, and I think he's a really nice guy. It's early days yet, but I was wondering, is the distance likely to cause any problems?
I live in Wrexham, and he lives in Birkenhead, ok it's not amazingly far, and there is a train there that takes an hour, but he has things to sort out down his end and I have things to sort out down here. Plus we both don't have much money so it's looking like we're only gonna be able to see each other on a weekend, do you think it'll cause any problems?
I live in Wrexham, and he lives in Birkenhead, ok it's not amazingly far, and there is a train there that takes an hour, but he has things to sort out down his end and I have things to sort out down here. Plus we both don't have much money so it's looking like we're only gonna be able to see each other on a weekend, do you think it'll cause any problems?
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although the problems we had were not exclusivly to do with living some distance apart, i know people who live further apart then me and my Ex did and there still seeing each other, so it can work but i think you just have to work at it a little bit harder thats all
You won't know unless you give it a try.
I'd invest in a young persons rail card if you don't already have one. :thumb:
Everytime i went on the train to see my Ex i'd save £3 with my rail card, thats 2 pints!
I haven't used my rail card, my dad bought me it and it expires in...I think March. Thing is now I have a car I don't really need it. I might just use it anyway, else it's a waste of money.
its not often i get to see my girlfriend, i saw her at the weekend and now im not gonna be able to see her again till the end of the month and thats only for a few days at the most.
i live in colchester, essex and she is litterally on the otherside of the country in cornwall! with the rail card that alone saves us both 27 quid a trip... money aint really the problem with us though its more time being an issue as she works and has uni etc and i work fulltime nights i only get a few hours off at the weekends.
simple as!
How much do they save you? roughly.
If you like eachother alot and are willing to put the effort into it then it shouldnt be too hard. Alot of people only see their partners at a weekend. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and he is a 1 1/2 hour train journey away...and when we first started seeing eachother we were both totally skint. But we made it this far. We even lasted my first year of uni where i was over a 2 hour drive away from him. Im living proof that it can be done!
thats so wrong... if you like eachother so much... its a hell of a lot harder! you went to spend all your time with them etc etc
you just learn to deal with it and not make it an issue if the other person means so much to you.. its still there.
I think u misinterpreted what i meant
I mean if one person was less into the other person, they may think oh why bother and call it off, or be tempted to cheat. Whereas if you like someone alot then your less likely to cheat and mor elikely to want to make it last
I didnt mean to make it sound like its easy, because its really hard.
Not necessarily; if you like eachother enough you'll make it work.
All 344 miles of it...*sigh*. But yeah, if it's meant to be, you'll be able to get through it...and seeing them, no matter how far you have to go or how long it takes, is always well worth it.
If you are aged 16-24 a Young Person's Railcard costs £20 for the year, and saves 1/3 on most rail tickets (some bargain fares do not carry railcard discounts). You can buy one from any staffed railway station- you need a passport photograph and proof of ID.
Railcard website.
As for the question.
If you like the guy enough then distance will be no problem at all- the visit will be worth the money and travelling. Me and trhe missus started off in a LDR, so they can work, it just takes a bit more effort.
An hour is fuck all tbh. Go for it.
my long distance relationship has worked quite well. we are engaged and set a date for the wedding
me and dave were 250 miles away from each other and it all has worked out fine. im not saying that it has been easy but then i dont think any relationship is easy. the hardest part of it is saying goodbye after a really good weekend. but once you get over that little bit you start looking forward to the following weekend/whenever you meet up next.
as long as you are both committed 110% to each other then i personally cant see why you cant just go for it. after all, an hour is nothing imo.
It is only £3.40 each way for us to see each other!!
Babe!! Plz dont worry!! It will work!!
An hour isn't much at all really.
you worked out the total distance? how sweet... it will work, and i agree it will always be worth it. i just wish i didnt work so much so i could see you more