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My friend has recently just slept with her boyfriend for the first time and she said that it really hurt. Is this the same for everyone?! Im scared now! But then again she said when her bf did other stuff to her it hurt too and she was surprised when I told her that it didnt for me. Am thinkin of sleeping with my bf but am worried cos so many people say its so painful! I really want to and that wouldnt hole me back incase it was really painful but what level of pain are we talkin bout here on a scale of 1-10?! :eek: Help!
My friend has recently just slept with her boyfriend for the first time and she said that it really hurt. Is this the same for everyone?! Im scared now! But then again she said when her bf did other stuff to her it hurt too and she was surprised when I told her that it didnt for me. Am thinkin of sleeping with my bf but am worried cos so many people say its so painful! I really want to and that wouldnt hole me back incase it was really painful but what level of pain are we talkin bout here on a scale of 1-10?! :eek: Help!
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It's really worth it though in the end. If you aren't going to be as relaxed as you want, you really should invest in KY Jelly. Let me stress this, VASELINE IS NOT A CHEAP ALTERNATIVE! It'll ruin your condoms to smithereens. On the subject of condoms I do hope you and your man have discussed Birth Control, if not, you really shouldn't be having sex if you would be so irresponsible.
ETA - The discomfort your friend was on about when he did "Other Stuff" was probably the pain from him entering prolonging; your vagina'll be a bit tender from being stretched when it hasn't been so forcefully stretched like before. That's completely normal, your lower half'll be a bit tender as well as you'll be using muscles you wouldn't normally use so often too. So bear this in mind, and make sure your boyfriend is completely considerate to you, this is a big thing, emotionally and physically! You need him to realise this.
Good luck!
It'll get better with time too- it always does!
The amount of pain varies from girl to girl, and it's affected by the guy too (how he does it, size etc). Your friend sounds unlucky and I'm not sure what I'd do in her situation, but don't let it scare you- it might not hurt you at all.
Have fun whatever you do!
It will feel a bit uncomfortable for a few days, just take plenty paracetamol and try not to squat too much
But yes, make sure you have lots of forplay to make sure your wet enough and then do what feel rights. I dnt advise just shagging straight away with out playiong about first cos tbh that can hurt.
I'm lucky.
I love him!
...then again i was talking to one of my friends who just slept with her bf for the first time and she said hes a similar size to my bloke...she said it didnt hurt at all so thats good...made me feel abit happier...
...i think the more time you take with foreplay etc the better it will be...
Yeah I think that size duz matter but you also have to be ready for it eg. turned on enough! Not just right lets give it ago (like sum1 else i sed to u bout nikks!) LoL!
Think when the time is right it can be really special.
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Yep definately!!
Yea, but dnt make it obvious, mention it in conversation about sex, say you love all that romantic stuff with roes and candles blah blah blah, men arnt mind readers and in my experiance not as romantic as most girls want them to be.
Lol...yeah no names mentioned there lol...sorry but i think she made a bit of a mistake just saying...okay lets give it a go... and also when she said to you you couldnt sleep with your bf until she had with hers...:rolleyes: ..some people eh?!
Yeah i must admit i'd quite like the candles myself but without me having to hint to him or tell him...mind you he already knows i love candles as i have about 60 at the last count in my room! But then again my bf thinks their a fire hazard (his dad is a fireman) :rolleyes:
I wouldnt make it obvious! If I tell him it wouldnt be the same. Would just have to drop a hint and hope he goes with it! Hes really sweet so hopefully he'll catch on!
NIKKI!!! Its a good job no names were mentioned! Sayin taht she doesnt even go on this site, or the Internet v.much for that matter but still, NIKKI!!! LOL!!
Yeah think that for sum1 to say to their friend that they cant sleep with their bf b4 they sleep with theirs is pathetic!
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Lol...exactly my thinking..sorry em i just Had to mention that ....and No names where mentioned so...
...actually thinking about it my bf accidentally mentioned he needed to buy candles and when i said i thought you said they were a fire hazard he replied with...they wont be when i use them..and then oh s*** i wasnt supposed to say ought to you...lol...so i have fingers crossed
Im hoping I'll be okay but every womans pain level is different - if you know what i mean - i think it will probably feel more uncomfortable than painful..or am i mistaken :eek: (stressed what do you think?)
Yeah my bf knows that i want to but im abit scared in a sense...my main reasoning of being scared is because of all of the horror stories i have heard and also because it is so new and unknown.
Does everyone talk to their friends about their blokes "size" or is it just me who doesn't??!! :eek2:
Anywhoo...well my first time wasn't painful, just abit uncomfortable cos it's something new etc and my ex made it really special for the both of us..
Just tell him to take it slow etc, use plenty of lube, NOT VASELINE, and enjoy!!
Ooohh, look at the date...a year tomorrow since I lost my virginity!!
Painful sex
Fear of first-time sex being painful
well no i dont normally...shes a gd mate and it just came up in the conversation we were having at the time! The content of my conversations arent normally about that! Lol
Can't believe no one's picked up on that yet