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why do i attract the wrong type of men
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some how i keep attracting the wrong type of men. i'm a white girl and i have nothing against any other skin colour but i seem to attract the really sleezy black men and when i ask them why they like me its usually because i have a large arse and i can dance soca (sexy dance) why oh why cna't i get a decent black man better lovers and better at treating their women right. some white guys are good too honest.
help me please!!!!
help me please!!!!
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what is it you want?
Glad it wasn`t just me.
If men like you for your 'big bum' and dancing skills then there's nothing wrong in that, per se.
Maybe it's WHERE you meet them. Do you ONLY meet men at clubs or when dancing?
I don't see the issue of attracting the wrong kind of men.
I do see the issue of not being picky enough to tell them you're not interested.
I've seen your website. I am dismayed. You are the chav princess.
And i do meet them in clubs. i have no problem with them just that it is how i am and becuase of that, they think that i will go back to their house to shag them but i'm not that type of girl i need to wait for a month at least of knowing that person in a relationship also i attract the black guys that don't speak a lot of english and my french is very very rusty.
Hereford's a strange place you see. I went there once.
Huh?!
i'm orginally from the manchester area you see so i've grown up in a multicultural situation and then when i move to hereford there is suddenly an abundance of white folks and not very many blacks asians etc. do you see where i'm coming from now.
i don't like the sleezy peeps cos i'm a good little girl most of the time and if i was to go for the non good guy then i would go for a non sleezy true thug but you don't get many of those a guy who is bad but treats his lady right that kinda guy.
I dunno, maybe it's because I'm white that I feel that way.
I have a mate like you- She looks about 15 when she goes out (she's nearly 19) and all these pervy guys white/ black/ asian whatever seem to hit on her cos she looks like she's up for it. Arrgh annoys me because she'll never open her mouth to say "No thanks" :mad:
I don't mean to sound harsh here, but it does sound a LITTLE like you're asking for it. You dance soca; so do I, and I understand if you're in a club it does tend to stand out and attract some attention. But if it attracts the wrong kind of attention, you walk away. If they follow, you go speak to a bouncer and ask them to keep an eye out for you because you're feeling a bit threatened. And if you're really not happy, surely it's common sense to leave and go to another club? Your fist 'ending up in his face' sounds a bit lame; if you go out prepared to start a ruck then obviously you're a) in a bit of a dive and b) got the wrong attitude!
And may I point out as I think someone else has, the people who are attracted to you depend on the people you surround yourself with. Go to the places you feel people you would like will be and surround yourself with those people. If you hang out in places where white boys 'who think they're thugs' are, or 'sleazy black guys', that's what you'll get! Not rocket science sweedie. From your site you seem to be into cars, bikes etc. Why not find your nearest track and hang out there? Or check out some new clubs where you won't get people hanging onto your ass all the time. If thing's aren't right, change 'em. Simple as that.
Actually I suspect you might even enjoy it, despite your protests.
AND I DO NOT ENJOY BEING FOLLOWED AROUND BY SOME DICKHEAD AND I DO TELL BOUNCERS BUT THEY ARE TOO BUSY SORTING OUT DRUNKS WHO START FIGHTING TO BE WATCHING ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
what?? What exatly are you trying to get across? I can't understand it. Maybe if you were a little more clear you would get better help. I would try but I simply cannot understand what you are getting at.