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Your first time
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Just a passing thought . . .
When it came to you having your first encounter of having sex did you feel scared that you wouldnt be good at it or that you would be a disapointment (sp) to your partner ??
Although im still a virgin ( sadly so ) i feel that when i think about my first time im afraid i'll be a let down.
Also just as a footer..... Do you prefer it with the light on or the light off, to answer my own question im unsure how i'd want it i think id go with how we felt at the time
Sorry just feeling a little curious tonight
When it came to you having your first encounter of having sex did you feel scared that you wouldnt be good at it or that you would be a disapointment (sp) to your partner ??
Although im still a virgin ( sadly so ) i feel that when i think about my first time im afraid i'll be a let down.
Also just as a footer..... Do you prefer it with the light on or the light off, to answer my own question im unsure how i'd want it i think id go with how we felt at the time
Sorry just feeling a little curious tonight
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but in answer to your question, i didn't feel i'd be a let down even though my bloke was a lot more experienced than me. Sex gets better with practice, you learn with your partner. . . just make sure you're comfortable with them and sex will improve LOADS!
most the time for me, sex is better with lights down, not off. can be good in dark, makes every touch more sensitive. drunk and in the dark is fun too, you're not really aware of where anything is!! and lights fully on, or outside in daylight is good cos you can see everything. . . . sorry i haven't really answered your question!
lights? hmmmm on, off, dim, bright, in side, outside - - - there is time to try it all - different days, different things!
Anyway, no one ever believes me, but i must of lasted about 2 hours on the first shag, then we did it again, in which i lasted about 40 minutes. I really dunno what happened, in fairness. I just couldnt cum for the life of me. So she went away thinking i was a great lay, like Les Dennis or summat.
Which was nice.
I lasted about a minute.
:chin:
Lights dont bother me anymore, i normally have sex during the day anyway! Actually it depends how comfortable i am with the person.
i love the light on, i love to see his face and body and i love him to see mine (its by no means perfect though!). i guess its because im so very comfortable with him.
Even though, we aint together anymore and would probably not go out of our ways to speak to each other again as we ended badly - I still don't regret it as I will always remember the times, we were good together and loosing 'our' virginitys' together was one of them -
Look at me, turning all soppy in me old age :crying:
Edited: ~ Fixed ~
u have more than one?:eek2:
No he lost his to me, as I lost mine to him :yeees:
...wait noticed I said 'my' instead of 'ours'
You know what I mean...
I like it with the lights on as I like to be able to see my gorgeous bloke as his appearance is a real turn on, as is the way he looks into my eyes.
I also like to be able to see what I'm doing and to be able to check that the condom hasn't torn or anything.
As for him seeing me naked I don't mind at all. He accepts me as I am. If I didn't feel close enough to him for him to see me naked then I wouldn't be sleeping with him.
Whilst physically first time sex is pretty bad for most people- me included- emotionally mine was perfect. I have no regrets.
The furthest I'd gone with anyone up to that point was kissing so it was a bit daunting going all the way and trying to remember what I'd read in magazines about how to do everything
I think if you're not even remotely nervous the first time its unnatural. Of course you're going to worry about whether it hurts, whether you're doing it right and so on...
For me, it didn't hurt too much - it was more just like a new sensation
Oh and as for the lights... dimmed. Off is too dark and fumbling around is never sexy, but full daylight shows off every lump and bump and I get paranoid he'll think I'm a porker!
the lights are usually on, or at least a lamp. like.. you need to see what you're doing!
I don't mind if lights are on or off, quite often do it in daytime as thats when have house to myself when not at work.
Love
Sarah
It was over too quick... but I guess thats to be expected on your first time :rolleyes:
Still, I can't have been that bad, she didn't know that it was my first time till I told her a few months later!
Oh, btw I prefer lights off...