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Put-Down People
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Was thinking about this today, two freinds arguing made me think.
Do you have a freind who's always coming out with put downs, particularly when you meet new people? Why do you think they do this?
Do you often find yourself making such comments? why do you think that is/whats the purpose
(i think some people do it as a habit, not out of spite, they just dont realise they are doing it)
Do you have a freind who's always coming out with put downs, particularly when you meet new people? Why do you think they do this?
Do you often find yourself making such comments? why do you think that is/whats the purpose
(i think some people do it as a habit, not out of spite, they just dont realise they are doing it)
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Friend B can be pretty nasty at times, if you have just split up with a bloke, she will ALWAYS say "I'm so glad you got rid of that wanker, he was always trying it on with me while you two were together" which, 9 times out of 10 is rubbish, seeing as she usually only meets them once, and there was no opportunity for any flirting to take place. She also takes great pride in being the bearer of bad news, she positively gets off on telling you all about your ex boyfriends stunning new girlfriend. RARRRR she annoys me so much and it's not like she is a close friend!! more of an unavoidable friend that has been around for years...she just appears wherever I am!! I'm sure she dishes out all these put-downs out of insecurity and the power trip she gets out of making someone else feel rotten.
the first are just generally nasty people who just like to embarrass others. avoid people like this.
the second are really insecure people who sense that insults are going to fly, and want to get in there first. or they feel the only way they can be liked is to make jokes about other people. i've known loads of this type of person, and they just need to be shown that people will laugh just as loud if they're telling a joke that isn't a put-down, and they they don't have to play the joker 24/7 to be liked.
try to avoid it, i put down friends in front of friends, but i never backstab which some people i know do about people, probably do aobut me too
You'll probably find that the put-downs make the person giving them out feel worse than the victim.
ditto
i cant remember it, thats why! and since i didnt remember it too much it culdnt of been that bad compared to others! lots of people on our course r really moody normally! u reckon ull pass physical sciences?
Do you think you did well enough to pass?
well the maths you done was a little bit harder than what most the chemistry people did so for that you deserve to, only cause that means i deserve to pass
your health not too bad now i hope
I'll fully admit to being Queen of the sarcastic put down i'm afraid. Although it is very rare that i am cruel to people or do it just to show them up. Most of the time i do it as part of banter with customers at the pub, they've come to expect something and to be honest half the time they give as good as they get. Unfortunately i can't help having a dry/sarcastic sense of humour but the key is to keep it in check and make sure you don't take it too far.
At the end of the day don't give it if you can't take it.