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First time?
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I have a pretty low opinion of myself and stuff, and am still only 15 and I know I'm not ready for sex yet and don't even have a boyfriend currently, but I have this image of me just going all needy and having sex with aload of guys to make me feel wanted or something..
I sound really stupid, sorry.
It's just someone mentioned the sex trade/topless bars etc and I could see myself doing that, just because I have this bad memory switching off thing and I'd see it as being easy money.
And for my first time, do I wait for someone I love, or have fun at a festival or something? Because I want to have sex at Reading fest (I will be 16 by then) (and I dont want to have sex *then*, like a goal date, but i dont want to be undecided about if i want to or not) but it would be my first time and I dont want to regret it or wish I'd waited, and I was brought up Catholic which is confusing me even more..I dont want to wait that long!!
Ick. I have a feeling I'm not making sense. sorry.
I sound really stupid, sorry.
It's just someone mentioned the sex trade/topless bars etc and I could see myself doing that, just because I have this bad memory switching off thing and I'd see it as being easy money.
And for my first time, do I wait for someone I love, or have fun at a festival or something? Because I want to have sex at Reading fest (I will be 16 by then) (and I dont want to have sex *then*, like a goal date, but i dont want to be undecided about if i want to or not) but it would be my first time and I dont want to regret it or wish I'd waited, and I was brought up Catholic which is confusing me even more..I dont want to wait that long!!
Ick. I have a feeling I'm not making sense. sorry.
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Is that stupid? That sounds really stupid and needy.
I guess I just need somewhere to get out my feelings on this, because it'd be embarrassing saying something as stupid as "I am considering having sex with people I dont love just to feel wanted" to someone in person..
I feel wanted/liked after pulling random guys now, which is stupid but not as stupid as I would be to then sleep with them I guess..
I'm not ready now.
I'm just saying that when I am, is it better to wait for someone you love, or does it matter if you have sex just to feel wanted, or will that make you hate yourself more in the long run?
Personally, I think you're better off waiting. It doesn't guarantee that your first time will be any good, but it would probably make it more likely to be something you remember with a smile rather than "omg I can't believe I did *that*".
And I know it's my virginity and I'm not going to do what a bunch of people I asked online about it said.. BUT don't you think it's better to have a whole bunch of opinions rather than just the one, which may be wrong and so affect the rest of my life in a negative way?
I'm very strong minded so will only do what I think is right, but I'd like to know the whole picture first