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Thinking about Schtuph
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Firstly i hope this is in the right forum so i don't get flamed. Basically i've been thinking a lot recently about my relationship with my parents and why its so bad. Ive been thinkin that maybe i should be honest with them. Just totally come clean and tell them and the drink, the drug problems, the eating problems, the self harm, the attempted suicide, why i'm failing at school etc etc everything thats making the gap between us bigger. Does anyone have experience of this, how did it go, what did you?
Oh and is this a bad idea?
Kirsty x
Oh and is this a bad idea?
Kirsty x
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Good luck xxx
The first major thing I told her was about 4 years ago when I told her I was smoking crack, this admission was greeted with tears and shock but when she did come around she helped me more than I could ever imagine. She had been there herself, not with the same choice of drug but she knew about the despair of dependecy and withdrawl from her own past experiences. If I hadn't told her about it and all the other drugs I was using at the time I wouldn't have got through it, I wouldn't have had a chance.
Once I'd shared this with her it strengthened our relationship and I went to her whenever I needed advice, no matter how serious the problem or situation (and there were some crazy points in my life) and I knew she'd help and advise me through it without getting angry or judgemental.
Im waffling here but what I'm trying to say is share your problems with your parents, maybe not all of them at once, they might find that a bit overwhelming, but thats a choice for you to make.
Like ice-baby said they have been there before and probably done or experienced the problems you are going through. And I'm certain that they'd much rather you go to them for help than try and cope with it all yourself.
Yeah keep the drugs out of it, tell them everything else if you want.
however, it may backfire, they night not understand. i know that alot of parents just dont have any idea of what younger people get up to now compared to when they were young... (eg. my parents for a start!!)
have you tried proffesional help at all? a good coucellor may be able to help you, and offer you advice on how to manage your parents too:)
Good luck!