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One of my mates who's 17 just told me he's been sleeping with his girlfriend who's 14.
I've told him time and again that he really shouldn't sleep with her, and he promised me he wouldn't but well he has.
What do I do about it? I don't want to get involved, yet I don't want him in trouble.
I'm going to talk to him again about it obviously and see if I can't knock some sense into him, and i'll speak to his cousin who's he's close to but whether it'll do any good is another matter.
Do you think this is the best thing to do? Talk to him about it I mean - and is there much else I can do?
I've told him time and again that he really shouldn't sleep with her, and he promised me he wouldn't but well he has.
What do I do about it? I don't want to get involved, yet I don't want him in trouble.
I'm going to talk to him again about it obviously and see if I can't knock some sense into him, and i'll speak to his cousin who's he's close to but whether it'll do any good is another matter.
Do you think this is the best thing to do? Talk to him about it I mean - and is there much else I can do?
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Anyway my advice: Personally I think that things like this happen quite a bit, and if he gets caught etc. he could be in trouble etc. thats what you already know. I guess your choices are to:
1) ignore it
2) try and talk him out of it, could get other friends to help you to talk him out of it also
3) report him to police etc.
I think 3's out of the question outright, and 1 seems to be out of the question for you as you made the post. I would say 2 is the best option, but try not to get too involved in situations like this - never works out good for you
I think that you've done all you can do.
i mean, how mature is this girl? how mature is your friend? how do they feel about each other? how long have they been together? are they using protection? are both of their parents aware of the situation?
...notice how complicated it just got...
short of shopping your friend yourself (which would result in him having a record as a sex offender and possible prison time) theres not much you can do to actually stop it....maybe its not your place to interfer.
If both partners are consenting to sex, know the possible concequenses, and are talking resanable precautions to avoid those concequenses then I don't think there is a problem.
14 is the right sort of time for her to be curious, and start experimenting with sexual activities. It's something we all have to do, and I think the fact that she has a steady boyfriend (who seems to care for her) will help her and suport her through this difficult time.
Your friend, although he's doing the wrong thing in the eyes of the law, as long as he's not just taking advantage of the girl is doing nothing wrong.
If you want him to stop (which isn't your desicion, by the way) I think you'd have much more succes talking to the girl and explaing to her that you think she's making a mistake.
Hope it all works out.
Taking things further will not only ruin your friendship but could land your friend in serious trouble. Just make sure hes aware of the risks which I'm sure he is anyway and make sure hes using protection.
'the age at which decision making skills are normally fully developed by is 19 in both sexes'
im looking for the source of that and in the meantime, i dont get where everyone seems to believe 15yr old girls ar emore mature than 18, perhaps the mature 15yr old girls go for twatty 18yr olds which i wouldnt argue with too much (well i wouldnt want a sexual relationship with a 14/15 yr old and im 18/19)