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It surprises me how many children, yes children they are under 16, have had sex.
I'm 15 and have been brought up the "Christian Way" and my mum would have a fucking heart attack if she knew I had sex (I haven't) But there are these kids my age and younger who have had sex and TBH it shocked me.
I'm 15 and have been brought up the "Christian Way" and my mum would have a fucking heart attack if she knew I had sex (I haven't) But there are these kids my age and younger who have had sex and TBH it shocked me.
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"I'm 15 and have been brought up the "Christian Way" and my mum would have a fucking heart attack "
Yes... how Christian of you to say the F word...
Ilora x
I'm all for people deciding by themselves when they're mature enough to have sex, and I have friends who lost their virginity age 15 and 16 who don't regret it, but none who lost it when younger (as far as I know...) - and many of my friends regret losing their virginity when they did.
I was 17 when I first had sex and was definitely ready, didn't regret it at all. I don't know... I guess everyone's different, but as a rule I think when you're younger than say 15 you probably aren't emotionally mature enough to deal with sex. It's just not right, and I actually feel ill and very depressed at the thought of kids younger than about 14 having sex, because I'm sure they're not doing it for the right reasons.
Oh and DaisyChainThing, I do not lead a sheltered life, I said "When I first found out it shocked me" it just disgusts me now.
Even so...
Are you getting cheeky with me newbie?
oh oh wait..
ROFLMAO
*ahem*
Sorry but why is it up to you to decide when others have sex, just because someone reaches 16 doesn't mean they're ready for it, and just because someone's 14 doesn't mean they aren't.
I don't know why it shocked you really, it's like being shocked that people do drugs when they're illegal etc.
Although then again, my mum has always respected her kids in that if we feel ready for sex, we have it, she knows we're educated into the risks so doesn't have a problem with it.
Yeh, that's quite disturbing when you think - when I was 13/14 or whatever, I doubt I even knew what a blow job was :rolleyes:
Along with ignorance about protection; teenage pregnancy rates will only get higher.
I know i didnt, i remember we were at piss up in the park one night and i sed to my b/f at the time (who i'd been with for 7 months btw) that i'd give him a blow job.....it wasnt intill we went to find a hidin place that i realised i had no idea what to do. And cos i was pissed i ended up asking these random ppl (also on a piss up) what to do.
I didn't until about a year ago (14) and even then I felt stupid for not knowing sooner. And there are Year 7's in my school going round asking people for them.
What is the world coming to!?
Although I think it all depends on the person when they want to have sex. Although anything below 13 (my at-the-time best mate lost hers at 13 to an at-the-time 17 year old) I think is just wrong. You can't be mentally ready at that age. Even if you are physically.
Frankay
x
then again at 9,
then at twenty past!
No mention of love, emotion, tenderness, prior knowledge, steady relationship etc.
You could work for the Labour Government, hand out morning after pills to 13 year old girls
Yeh but seriously, how many people have all that with people they sleep with even after they're 16?!
I do. But that's not the point, we're talking about other people.
Children just aren't being educated properly about sex.
Many of the people who do, come from broken homes, and many people that do dont come from broken homes. Whats your point?
i take it that you dont come from a one parent family and thats why your so perfect?
I come from a one parent family, i didnt have sex until i was 18 and in a steady relationship that lasted for over a year.
I think that if your going to start blaming one parent familys for a problem with society that you should look at the bigger picture before doing so!
statistically speaking his point is valid but i dont think he was implying that every broken home means that the kids end up sleeping around sooner. just generally.
my viewpoint is that people have sex way too young nowadays! I mean, people younger than me have had sex. People significantly younger than me have had sex. I'm not saying they weren't ready - but to be honest, most of them weren't. They thought they owned the world and they knew best. Had sex. Then reality kicked in
Interesting you should say that.
In Sunderland, women's protection groups are now refusing to give out the pill and condoms to under-16s, because apparently girls having sex that young are not having sex with their peers, but with older men.
That is just sick. Even when I was 16 I wouldn't want to fuck a year 7 girl, it's just disgusting.
But by not giving them the contraception, surely that would cause more problems in the long run? Because if they really want to have sex, then they will, whether they have protection or not. Which would mean possible increases in teenage pregnancies and STIs...
They've found that that isn't true, because the men are older I think.
I only saw it in passing in the Northern Echo...
thats why its wrong, its not experimenting , its being conned...
And believe me, they are :P I didn't know that about the MAP here though. I suppose if people are abusing it then maybe it'll cut down on little girls having sex but... I dunno. I would imagine them just getting an older friend to get it for them anyway.
Also... I found out last week that my boyfriend lost his virginity when he was 14... to an 11 year old :-O :-O who was still at primary school I think! Jesus!
i was brought up being told by my mother that i should only ever do it if and when i feel ready and safe, and i agree with that. personally i feel ready but only with the right person and at the right time. i´m not despratly trying to find some guy to go it with, but if the oppitunity came up and i was totaly sure i was ready and i had protection then i would but i don´t think thta will be soon.
Luby