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embarasing sex problems

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
This is a bit embarasing and was hoping it might be soemthing other ppl have had happen to them aswell.... the first time me & my new bf tried to have sex he couldnt 'get it up' and said it was cos he was nervous. the next time i was too 'dry' and i thought that maybe that was nerves too, though its never happened before. And the last time we tried there was just lots of fumbling and we gave up in the end cos we couldn't get it 'in' :blush: Im realy embarased and it seems like each time we try its getting worse cos were getting more and more nervous! Its not our first times we've both done it loads of times with other peopel before but i feel like just givin up!:confused:

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if you both just totaly relax, and have lots of foreplay to get you both turned on then it should be cool, if your too dry you could use lube (water based) and use condoms :yes:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I find if i have this problem, u need to be really wet (lots of foreplay helps) and to use condoms they help :yes:
    Good luck :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If it gets really bad, slip him a viagra.

    Anxiety will probably ruin it for him to, so (if you) say "let's have sex," you may infact make you both nervous. If this is the case, just let it happen.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hiya.

    This is a common problem associated with nervousness. It happens because you or your partner dont know what to expect or are trying to hard to get it right, to make your partner happy. Once you get use to eachothers bodies, it will naturally happen. I wouldn't worry about it to much though, its not a sign of him going off you, its just nervousness and expectations. I wouldnt doddle with viagra just yet, once your comfy then you can explore down different paths (scuse the pun) . As for the dryness, you are probably experiencin the same thing..plenty of time and foreplay will rectify this.

    In the end it will suddenly happen, and you'll be fine from there on. The more he thinks about his failure to gain an erection, the more it will happen. Comfort him and reassure him its ok.

    Hope that helps,

    Nice one

    :D:naughty:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The search button exists for a reason :yes:

    Don't make intercourse the focus of your sex, sand the nerves wil probably disappear. BUt away form sex, are you (or him) under pressure or stress, such as with college work? Stress is a libido killer, and can stop erections even if the guy is horny.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    like kermit said, dont make intercourse the focus....your doin it to have fun...so relax and just enjoy.....us humans have all these interesting bits and pieces for a reason you know ;) hehe.

    go play
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't worry about it. It happens. Nerves get to me too, and it can sometimes take four or five times with a new girlfriend before I feel relaxed enough to cum. You'll get there. Just remember you're not the only ones to suffer problems, & it's nothing to be embarrassed about - and keep trying! :thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nerves get to me too, sometimes i really feel like getting down to it and then she pops!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Forestfan
    nerves get to me too, sometimes i really feel like getting down to it and then she pops!
    she pops? as in your blow up doll? :confused:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by lipsy
    she pops? as in your blow up doll? :confused:

    well, occasionaly she goes down but once she popped (it was a very bad night) :naughty:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Forestfan
    well, occasionaly she goes down but once she popped (it was a very bad night) :naughty:
    :lol::lol:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont i even get any sympathy?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Forestfan
    dont i even get any sympathy?

    :( *sympathy*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Forestfan
    dont i even get any sympathy?

    *hands pity pie*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Forestfan
    nerves get to me too, sometimes i really feel like getting down to it and then she pops!

    my heart bleeds for you
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