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Moving in on your best mate's ex
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How long you would leave it before making a move on your best mate's ex?
As you might know (see "Is this just shyness?" thread) I was kinda seeing a guy a few weeks ago but it seems to have faded away to nothing now - not sure why, but anyway..
Last weekend, his best mate started txting me. At first I thought it might be "on behalf of his mate" to find out how I felt and whatever. But it turned into him asking me out.. :eek2: I basically (in a nice way, I think) told him it was his mate I liked but he didn't seem to have a problem with that!
Then I didn't hear from him for a week.. until last night, when he asked me out again, and seems completely serious (first time round, I thought it was probably the two of them in the pub, taking the piss). I've told him (again!) that it didn't seem/feel right to go out with the best mate of the guy I was seeing a few weeks ago (and would still like to get with again) and I think he's finally got the message...
But, seriously, would you make a move on your best mate's ex, and how long would you leave it after they split up before saying something? Just all seems a bit soon to me! I wouldn't dream of doing something like that to my best mate!
(Apparently the guy I was seeing knows all about his mate txting me, but I'm not quite sure I believe that, somehow!)
As you might know (see "Is this just shyness?" thread) I was kinda seeing a guy a few weeks ago but it seems to have faded away to nothing now - not sure why, but anyway..
Last weekend, his best mate started txting me. At first I thought it might be "on behalf of his mate" to find out how I felt and whatever. But it turned into him asking me out.. :eek2: I basically (in a nice way, I think) told him it was his mate I liked but he didn't seem to have a problem with that!
Then I didn't hear from him for a week.. until last night, when he asked me out again, and seems completely serious (first time round, I thought it was probably the two of them in the pub, taking the piss). I've told him (again!) that it didn't seem/feel right to go out with the best mate of the guy I was seeing a few weeks ago (and would still like to get with again) and I think he's finally got the message...
But, seriously, would you make a move on your best mate's ex, and how long would you leave it after they split up before saying something? Just all seems a bit soon to me! I wouldn't dream of doing something like that to my best mate!
(Apparently the guy I was seeing knows all about his mate txting me, but I'm not quite sure I believe that, somehow!)
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Friends' exes are best avoided unless you really think it's worth going for. And sometimes it is - you can't always help who you fall for.
its true, i would leave it a while then ask your friends permission before you move in, better to say something. they mightnt mind there leftovers.
ohh...
in that case.... go for it
unfortunately when that sorta situation happend to me, i fell for him and then was duped so it really wasnt worth hurtin ma mate...luckily me and ma mate r cool and much stronger thru this.
however i think most men are more acceptin of their mates goin after their exes, i dont kno seems they're less emotional than us women?
The ex got back in touch last night but I haven't heard anything from him all today.. and his mate txt me this morning, saying he wasn't going to give up that easily! *sigh*
I know for sure that I would start seeing the ex again without a shadow of a doubt, and would never get with his mate in the first place (even if I'd never met the first guy!) anyway - and his mate knows this... he just doesn't seem to want to accept it.
is it your best mate's ex... or your ex's best mate??