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Being too nice
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This is mainly a question for the girls.
But do you hate it went a guy is too nice to you?
Do you like a guy to just take charge sometimes and make the decisions?
My friend got married a year ago and didn't take the time to really get to know the girl he was marrying (He proposed 5 days after they first met and 3 weeks later they were engaged)
When I see them together he's too nice to her, almost the way you treat a stranger. He tries to be so nice to her that I think she finds it annoying.
Like we were ordering a chinese meal and he kept asking her, doyou want this, that, etc, etc
And it only seemed to wind her up, from what I can tell she and many other women just like a guy to take charge .. any of you girls agree or disagree .. cos us blokes can't figure out what you lot want most of the time.
But do you hate it went a guy is too nice to you?
Do you like a guy to just take charge sometimes and make the decisions?
My friend got married a year ago and didn't take the time to really get to know the girl he was marrying (He proposed 5 days after they first met and 3 weeks later they were engaged)
When I see them together he's too nice to her, almost the way you treat a stranger. He tries to be so nice to her that I think she finds it annoying.
Like we were ordering a chinese meal and he kept asking her, doyou want this, that, etc, etc
And it only seemed to wind her up, from what I can tell she and many other women just like a guy to take charge .. any of you girls agree or disagree .. cos us blokes can't figure out what you lot want most of the time.
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weird. me
Except my new blokey, he cant do a thing wrong and we are so soppy! Ive never been like this before and always thought I needed a man to put me in my place. I guess its just a matter of finding the right one, for me anyway.
Nice guys *rule* :cool:
This is what confuses us guys so much!!
Maybe you like the fact they are taken??
Afterall people always want what they can't have??
i just want him to take charge sometimes, to be a man all big and strong. to rip my clothes off, to make decisions. a guy who is too nice would never do these. he'd be worrying too much about my 'feelings'. i would describe a *nice* guy as someone who is shy, is a pussy, slightly boring and needs to grow some balls.
I totally know what you mean by that. Weird how that one nice person can sometimes totally change how we are about some stuff, eh?
But on topic, I think girls who don't like guys being too nice, shouldn't really complain about being hurt by some bastard,..
I totally agree. I think the difference is that when you properly are in love with someone, the nice soppy things are just the icing on the cake!
Maybe you've also changed??
I think when girls hate themselves they look for guys that treat them like dirt as it reinforces their own beliefs??
.. Don't know ... anyone that write a book on how women think will be an instant millionaire!!!
why don't u give it a shot?
However, I know he doesn't treat me like a stranger cos we take the piss out of each other.... Maybe you just haven't ever seen the jokey flirty relationship to their relationship.
Read it, its a perfect life/relalationship handbook! Read it! You will find out a lot! Especially the bit about Roses, im not gona spoil it for you