Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering Stuff Edition) w/c 23.03.26

Leyla

Hey Everyone!

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Here is this week's space to chat or vent about things which you think may be more triggering for the Community but you still want to get off your chest.

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Every Monday morning we will close the thread and start a new one so we have a fresh one each week. If you'd like to check out this week's venting thread that isn't triggering, click here

Leyla

As its a new week I have just closed the last threads but noticed you posted this quite early this morning @River :

it’s all completely kicked off tonight :/ I give up with trying to support people if if backfires and they throw it back in my face

Do you want to go into a bit more about what happened, especially so late at night?

River

Hi @Leyla had a really rough night, I was awake till 6am after nasty messages because I thought I was doing the right thing because a friend came to me saying she had ran away from home, I tried supporting her and she kept saying “idc” everytime I suggest something. It reached a point where she made it seem like she had ran miles from home. She had a friends sofa last night to sleep on but tonight she was gonna be on the streets or so she made out to be. It reached a point where I felt the need to call a welfare check. I contacted the runaway line so they could contact her and then I contacted the police because the girl makes out she gets abused. I told the girl and then she ran to someone else who then ended up contacting me being nasty and rude. So I’m just done supporting people. If there in crisis then I’m sorry but they can sort themselves out I’m not doing it anymore I’ll just set those boundaries. I have enough shit going on for me I don’t need all this

Leyla

@River That sounds absolutely fair enough from what you have said, you are well within your rights to set those boundaries especially when trying to help others has backfired for you so much last night and also other times in the past. You have mentioned going through a lot yourself so having to contend with others strong emotions which might make them lash out could feel like too much right now and that makes so much sense. If you have anything you want to talk about for your own struggles right now then we want to hear that too, we're here to truly listen to you and share your pain

River

thank you @Leyla

I’m currently waiting for my doctors to phone me about my collar bone and then can go from there

I also contacted my job centre about changing my appointment tomorrow and they said if I do they will deduct my pay :/ I had a valid reason to have it changed but they won’t listen