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HR saying i didn't declare my needs when I did-- Passing probabation in question
Invisible_me
Posts: 548 Incredible Poster
in Work & Study
So i had supervision at work on Monday, the work place ive bern taljing anoyt on here quite a bit and had a few issues with the place/manager etc..
He was nice on Monday. was preety verbal so that helped. My 6month probation quota ended july byt I hadn't passed so my manager extended for further 12 weeks (i thibk about normal extension is 4 weeks , but because I'm sessional and possibly a mistake he did it 12) so that brings it to October but he then got pulled up saying that it needs to end in September but because his done it to 12 his sticking to end of October. He was going to request HR for further because I've had a few difficulties and lack of shifts given to me. Though...HR have now turned around saying i didn't declare my autism during onboarding which I did, and they even flagged i have a "mental/physical impairment to my manager " so my probation can't be extended further (than it already is) on those grounds, even though my manager said she has autism so needs longer thryve said no . I hsve to have an occupational health assessment and maybe after then but otherwise after October its i either have the job or don't! -- what am I supposed to b do?? I'm scared! My manager was nice about it he said at moment if i carry om as am then I'm on track but need to be more confident and have faith. Ive got 5 further shifts till i have to pass it. His listee the adjustments so its recorded. I want to pass it bit worried I may not because of my difficulties and like this is making it seem im being cussed because if my autism and thats not my fault!
He probed me on hoe I was feeling? How thivngs are at home and I ended up disclosinng to him about my dad's Canc** diagnosed (my other places if work knew not him) but like he spoke to me about it and shared his dad also has Canc** but I knoe feel embarrased because he knows! Want to hide!
Ut fely like the supervision was more tailored towards me, less template heavy and felt like he wanted to emgage with me like he had the time for me. He praised me voluntarily normally when praise section comes he asks me i say none and he moves on. This time he said i want to praise you for... which was nice.
He was nice on Monday. was preety verbal so that helped. My 6month probation quota ended july byt I hadn't passed so my manager extended for further 12 weeks (i thibk about normal extension is 4 weeks , but because I'm sessional and possibly a mistake he did it 12) so that brings it to October but he then got pulled up saying that it needs to end in September but because his done it to 12 his sticking to end of October. He was going to request HR for further because I've had a few difficulties and lack of shifts given to me. Though...HR have now turned around saying i didn't declare my autism during onboarding which I did, and they even flagged i have a "mental/physical impairment to my manager " so my probation can't be extended further (than it already is) on those grounds, even though my manager said she has autism so needs longer thryve said no . I hsve to have an occupational health assessment and maybe after then but otherwise after October its i either have the job or don't! -- what am I supposed to b do?? I'm scared! My manager was nice about it he said at moment if i carry om as am then I'm on track but need to be more confident and have faith. Ive got 5 further shifts till i have to pass it. His listee the adjustments so its recorded. I want to pass it bit worried I may not because of my difficulties and like this is making it seem im being cussed because if my autism and thats not my fault!
He probed me on hoe I was feeling? How thivngs are at home and I ended up disclosinng to him about my dad's Canc** diagnosed (my other places if work knew not him) but like he spoke to me about it and shared his dad also has Canc** but I knoe feel embarrased because he knows! Want to hide!
Ut fely like the supervision was more tailored towards me, less template heavy and felt like he wanted to emgage with me like he had the time for me. He praised me voluntarily normally when praise section comes he asks me i say none and he moves on. This time he said i want to praise you for... which was nice.
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You mentioned that you had a supervision session at your workplace where the details of your probation extension were discussed. You have five more weeks left of probation, and you really want to pass, but are worried because some of your adjustment needs seem to be getting ignored. Am I hearing that right? And HR have incorrectly accused you of not disclosing your autism at the start of your onboarding too. That sounds distressing, @independent_ , especially when you know that is untrue!! I can imagine that feeling really infuriating and unfair, and you're doing so well to talk about this. How has this been impacting upon you emotionally? Has there been anyone else outside of work that you've felt you've wanted to talk to about your work-place's behavior towards you?
You also mentioned that you talked to your manager about your dad's cancer diagnosis, and afterwards maybe felt quite vulnerable or a bit embarrassed? That sounds hard, @independent_ , and it is so valid that that conversation maybe felt a bit exposing or scary! Especially when you're sharing something that feels personal. How were you able to take care of yourself after the meeting?
It sounds like being praised by him too felt really encouraging, even if a bit unfamiliar and new maybe! Accepting and taking in praise can take real courage, and I really see that! You're so deserving of having your hard work and dedication acknowledged!
@Invisible_me I think this was meant for you and not me just tagging you here so you see
Hi @Sian321 thank you for replying!
Im.worried about not being able to pass probation and I do want to! Im worried because I'm still not upto where everyone is, properly and confidently when thry pass their probation. Im delievering sessions thats good but still lack on somewhst confidence and because of how im.feelingb I'm not always ready to take a session when a drop in comes, so I refuse and then someone else has to take it, which adds pressure. Thurs a drop in came, manager asked me if ill do it (it was right at start) I was unsettled so I nodded no he was like "no, okay " and someone else took. It bit afterwards a 3rd drop in came which had to be mine because no one elsr available i wasn't ready so we had to refuse a service to them. After 2 hours in shift I settled and was able to deliver a session to the next drop in. I felt bad but at same time my manager should praise me for being honedt and saying no, and saying "im. Not okay ", which he says i need to do. Also if not reception duty independently (but he might bypass this). This am I going to pass nit pass is stressing me out! Also like puts me under pressure when I am struggling and then feel bad!! When I shouldn't, I have sensory overloads. It feels like I'm being cussed against autism. Also the adjustments are very much conflicting- only sometimes is relaxing music used, his not calling me after as his supposed to. The only things in place are my allocated desk and time out.
Your right it feels unfair when hr says i didnt declare, when I did declare it at start, I should be supported on my autism but it doesn't seem to be this way. My manager sometimes comes across as supportive and other times not which feels conflicting! On supervision he wss nice and thurs shift he vwss okay like "apparently he was looking for me and worroed if I was okay when i was unsettled and took time out but didn't return after 10mins. Ive spoken to my other workplace thtyve said its border disability discrimination and to put my points across on the occupational health assessment.
It did feel qyite exposing after sharing it but he was nice and guess it helps him understand my level of stress. I went home after the supervision.