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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 21.07.25

LeylaLeyla Community Manager Posts: 258 The Mix Regular
edited July 21 in Health & Wellbeing
This is a space to chat or vent about things which you think may be more triggering for the Community but still want to get off your chest.

Every Monday morning we will close the thread and start a new one so we have a fresh one each week. If you'd like to check out this week's venting thread that isn't triggering, click here.

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  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,700 Extreme Poster
    This may not be on topic, but may i ask why one of my threads has been deleted entirely now?
  • LeylaLeyla Community Manager Posts: 258 The Mix Regular
    Hey @DonnerKebab I have just checked and this must have been accidentally done by someone, it was moved into one of our archives, but should be restored now. Super sorry about that and thank you for pointing it out because we wanted to keep these all public so everyone can see all the previous support they have received
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,637 Legendary Poster
    my head is hurting so badly i just wanna cry. :(
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • Lottie5433Lottie5433 Community Connector Posts: 889 Part of The Mix Family
    Im sat outside in the cold crying about my own thoughts and what they want to do but my boyfriend is worrying me with his. He has his location off and isn't responding to me, he said he was having a panic attack and that he didnt want to be hwre anymore and I feel so useless right now
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,637 Legendary Poster
    Lottie5433 wrote: »
    Im sat outside in the cold crying about my own thoughts and what they want to do but my boyfriend is worrying me with his. He has his location off and isn't responding to me, he said he was having a panic attack and that he didnt want to be hwre anymore and I feel so useless right now

    can you contact his family or friends? also look after yourself lottie. <3 are you safe?
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • Lottie5433Lottie5433 Community Connector Posts: 889 Part of The Mix Family
    I dont have any contacts for his family or his friends. He just told me he went and sat on a cliff but is at home now. Im telling him he needs to talk to someone but he won't.

    Im safe though
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,876 The Mix Elder
    Im overwhelmed still
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,876 The Mix Elder
    There's been a bus accident not too far from me, the roof got ripped off and 17 plus people got injured, its made me worried about getting the bus myself they've slammed on the brakes multiple times when I was on. Also the crash that happened it was yesterday literally 5 minutes away from where I used to live and I got the bus yesterday so it could have been me if I lived there still.
  • I_yearn_for_breadI_yearn_for_bread Posts: 1 Just got here
    I'm in a much better spot now but when I was much worse of mentally I feel bad about myself with how many friendships I got into and was used because of my vulnerability/low self esteem. I suppose it's good I can see it clear as day now
  • Lottie5433Lottie5433 Community Connector Posts: 889 Part of The Mix Family
    edited 10:26AM
    I think everything is getting bad again.
    • I was inches away from relapsing with my SH both yesterday evening and this morning
      I have what id use with me at work
    • my eating disorder voice is getting louder every day - its harder not to give in to it. Just avoiding everything around or associated with food
    • Yesterday and screwed up with my boyfriend (made him overthink which I dont want coz then he cries and doesn't tell me) so I recklessly drove home doing about 70/80 in wet conditions
      part of me wishes i did crash or something then i cant mess anything else up
    • im scared to go to the pharmacy and pick up my medication
      because then id have more at home
    • i just keep putting on a front like everything is fine just to avoid the 20 questions of how im feeling and that

    Ive just had enough with everything
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,207 Boards Champion
    edited 10:31AM
    Hey @Lottie5433 , firstly, thank you so much for making this post and reaching out. It takes courage to put our feelings into words when we're afraid things are getting bad again, and all of here in Community are here to listen.

    It sounds like yesterday you felt as though you had messed something up with your boyfriend, which led to a lot of very strong guilt and overwhelm, and urges to SH. Have I got that right?

    You also mentioned driving recklessly and a part of you hoping you might come to harm. This sounds serious, Lottie, and I really hear just how intolerable those feelings of fearing you'd 'messed up' were - you wanted to put a stop to that feeling so, so badly, and you were afraid of complicating your relationship.

    Can I ask, are you feeling able to keep yourself physically safe today, and how do you plan to do this? Would you be able to share any activities you have in mind today that could help you do this? Are you able to text your friend? Or to stay around your parents so you don't have to be physically alone? Already posting here has been a really positive step.

    I also wonder how things are feeling with your boyfriend this morning too? We're here if you'd like to explore this, and no matter what has happened, you are so deserving of self-forgiveness here and compassion. You're a human being. This is your first time on Planet Earth too, and you're doing your very best. We're sending lots of care Lottie.

    If you are feeling the urge to SH again or try to end your life, we would encourage you strongly to contact one of the following spaces for 1:1 support safety planning:
    Samaritans - https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/
    Papyrus - https://www.papyrus-uk.org/
    CALM - https://www.thecalmzone.net/
    SHOUT 24/7 Text service - https://giveusashout.org/

    If you are considering acting on the plan you mentioned above (which I've edited in accordance with our Guidelines) we would also urge you to dial 999 or journey to your local A&E.

    We'll keep an eye out for your reply.
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