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Don't know know what to do anymore

TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,837 Boards Guru
I feel really overwhelmed and uncertain about what to do anymore. My stress is becoming too much to handle, and it’s not just about my work situation. I worry about a lot of things, like my future, my financial situation, and relationships. It’s affecting my sleep, and I find myself up at 1 am, 2 am, or even 4 am, which is happening more frequently. It’s getting harder to cope with because the lack of sleep is making everything worse, and it’s impacting me during the day too. I just don’t know how to manage this stress anymore.

I’ve thought about therapy and seeing a GP, but I’ve never had the courage to pursue it, even though I’ve heard therapy might be free. I spoke to my friend about it, and he said I don’t need therapy, but I don’t think he fully understands how deeply I feel. I’ve shared bits of how I feel with him, but it might not have clicked how much I’m struggling. I think therapy could really help me feel better, but there are a lot of barriers holding me back. I’m worried it might not work, and I’m concerned about what others might think. The work search is a big part of the stress, but I’m also constantly worrying about other things. No one knows about what I’m going through, and it feels like I’m carrying all of this by myself. I’m exhausted from worrying and lack of sleep, and I don’t know what to do anymore. I appreciate all the support I'm getting from here so much though, I know I'm so repetitive but you understand that it's not easy and my feelings are repetitive, thanks so much for all the support, I appreciate every single comment and even virtual hugs, you are all genuinely amazing.

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  • amy02amy02 Moderator Posts: 405 Listening Ear
    Sending big hugs @TheNightmare I can really hear how much you're dealing with at the moment <3 It sounds like seeking therapy or speaking to your GP could be a good step - as you said, it might help to talk through things and find ways to manage the stress :3 Is this something you'd feel comfortable doing? Keep us updated, we're here to support you <3
  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 1,845 Extreme Poster
    @TheNightmare - we have all seen how motivated you are to get into work and improve your situation, both in life and mentally - and for that we are all super proud of you. If you feel like therapy could be a potentially good thing for you, it may be worth having a proper conversation with your doctor/GP about it all so that they can properly advise you on how you may go about it and whether or not it is the right thing for you.

    in the mean time sending you even more of those virtual hugs we all give out here and remember to try and take it easy and be kind to your mind (easier said than done i know) and that we are all here to support you as much as you need, so don't worry about sounding repetitive - we'll listen each and every time :3
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,837 Boards Guru
    edited December 2024
    amy02 wrote: »
    Sending big hugs @TheNightmare I can really hear how much you're dealing with at the moment <3 It sounds like seeking therapy or speaking to your GP could be a good step - as you said, it might help to talk through things and find ways to manage the stress :3 Is this something you'd feel comfortable doing? Keep us updated, we're here to support you <3

    @amy02 Thanks so much for your understanding and support. I do think speaking to someone, whether it's a therapist or my GP, could help me process everything and manage the stress better. It's just can be a little daunting and I'm just so hesitent but I’m starting to see the value in it. I’ll try to take that step and keep you updated. I really appreciate the reply
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,837 Boards Guru
    edited December 2024
    sinead276 wrote: »
    @TheNightmare - we have all seen how motivated you are to get into work and improve your situation, both in life and mentally - and for that we are all super proud of you. If you feel like therapy could be a potentially good thing for you, it may be worth having a proper conversation with your doctor/GP about it all so that they can properly advise you on how you may go about it and whether or not it is the right thing for you.

    in the mean time sending you even more of those virtual hugs we all give out here and remember to try and take it easy and be kind to your mind (easier said than done i know) and that we are all here to support you as much as you need, so don't worry about sounding repetitive - we'll listen each and every time :3

    @sinead276 Thanks so much for your kind words and support it really means a lot. I’m glad that my determination is recognized, even if it’s been a bit of a struggle lately. I think speaking with my GP could be a good idea, and I’ll try to do that soon. I really appreciate the virtual hugs and the reminder to be kind to myself it’s tough, but I’m going to try. It’s comforting to know I have this support, and I don’t mind repeating myself at all; it helps just knowing you’re all here. Thank you again for being so supportive.
  • Riley_2001Riley_2001 Posts: 57 Boards Initiate
    @TheNightmare Hey. I’d like to start by adding that seeing a GP and even a therapist is a wonderful step. I did that myself for my loneliness and depression. I just wrapped 8 weeks of talk therapy and it was helpful. They can and do provide a lovely service and wonderful techniques to help deal with stress etc. Whilst, of course, it’s no cure, it’s such a massive help in better understanding ourselves and how to manage with the stress of life. It’s your first time at life, like us all, it’s not easy, but you’re doing a wonderful job. I can see from a lot of your posts how courageous of a soul you are, you keep pushing and pushing on despite the adversity of life. It’s admirable and I’ll mention that it provides me with hope and insight-fullness if your strength as a person. Sometimes, even the therapist needs a therapist and that’s okay. The doctor needs a doctor. We all need each other and I think you taking those steps could be beautiful for you. Don’t worry what others think, therapy and seeing a GP is beneficial and we all need that sometimes, me included. I had to see someone and that’s okay.

    Feelings can seem so repetitive but that never takes away the validation of such feelings. You’re allowed to feel that way, even if you feel it everyday. Life is hard, but it’s your attitude, attempts and courage that will lead to a more peaceful existence. I can relate to you in many ways, I stay up most nights, wishing it was different, wishing I wasn’t so lonely, wishing I could end the endless yearning. But, there’s too much stubborn hope within the human heart to give in and I see that within you and your posts. Keep going, my friend, you’ll get there in time. We are all here for you in this journey we call life, no matter the circumstances. ☺️
    My forest welcomes your sad days too.
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,837 Boards Guru
    Riley_2001 wrote: »
    @TheNightmare Hey. I’d like to start by adding that seeing a GP and even a therapist is a wonderful step. I did that myself for my loneliness and depression. I just wrapped 8 weeks of talk therapy and it was helpful. They can and do provide a lovely service and wonderful techniques to help deal with stress etc. Whilst, of course, it’s no cure, it’s such a massive help in better understanding ourselves and how to manage with the stress of life. It’s your first time at life, like us all, it’s not easy, but you’re doing a wonderful job. I can see from a lot of your posts how courageous of a soul you are, you keep pushing and pushing on despite the adversity of life. It’s admirable and I’ll mention that it provides me with hope and insight-fullness if your strength as a person. Sometimes, even the therapist needs a therapist and that’s okay. The doctor needs a doctor. We all need each other and I think you taking those steps could be beautiful for you. Don’t worry what others think, therapy and seeing a GP is beneficial and we all need that sometimes, me included. I had to see someone and that’s okay.

    Feelings can seem so repetitive but that never takes away the validation of such feelings. You’re allowed to feel that way, even if you feel it everyday. Life is hard, but it’s your attitude, attempts and courage that will lead to a more peaceful existence. I can relate to you in many ways, I stay up most nights, wishing it was different, wishing I wasn’t so lonely, wishing I could end the endless yearning. But, there’s too much stubborn hope within the human heart to give in and I see that within you and your posts. Keep going, my friend, you’ll get there in time. We are all here for you in this journey we call life, no matter the circumstances. ☺️

    @Riley_2001 Thanks so much for your kind and encouraging words. It really means a lot to hear that, especially from someone who has gone through similar struggles. I'm taking it one step at a time, and your support gives me hope that things can improve. I appreciate the reminder that it's okay to seek help, and that we're all in this together. I’ll keep pushing forward, and your words truly inspire me to keep going. Thanks for the reply.
  • Riley_2001Riley_2001 Posts: 57 Boards Initiate
    @TheNightmare You’re more than welcome. ☺️ Indeed, we are all in this together.
    My forest welcomes your sad days too.
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