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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,327 Wise Owl
Hello all!

Just wanted to say that I hope you all had a wonderful festive period, however you spent it and whatever you celebrated. I want to remind you to be gentle with yourself as much as you can during this time, particularly if this time of year didn't live up to your hopes, or you struggled. It's perfectly okay to not be okay, something that I feel should be repeated, particularly in times where you feel pressured to be consistently happy and joyful when you're struggling.

Please know that you and your mental health are way WAY more important than any celebratory event. Do what makes you happy, no matter what others think, it's not selfish to take care of yourself first.

Sending love and strength to anyone who may need it right now, you're doing the best you can, and that is more than enough!
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    Hi @Brookee

    Thanks for your post. It is really valued. So many of us recognise that the festive period can be enjoyable but also a time of difficulty!

    I did enjoy the festive period thank you. I spent it with my family, we watched television and ate too much food.

    How was your festive period? :3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,327 Wise Owl
    Hey @Laura_tigger82

    Of course! I know this time of year is so difficult for so many, and we often get swept away in the merriment of it all, but it's important to recognise it's not always easy, and it's okay to just feel what you feel without the added pressure of having to pretend to be happy.

    I'm really pleased to hear you had a good time! Did you do anything exciting! It was good, I got to go home and see my grandparents and my dog so that was lovely, but now I'm back home and it's that lull period between Christmas and New Year where you feel a little depressed, so I'm just allowing myself to sit with these feelings! :)
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited December 2021
    Oh of course @Brookee ! I feel like we should enjoy ourselves and do the things that make us happy if we can. However, unfortunately, feelings and circumstances don't just go away because we want to be happy.

    Unfortunately, feelings aren't just like a switch you can turn on and off. Thankfully though that is why there is support available all year through!

    I was similar to you, it was quiet family time for me which is always my favourite.

    I am glad to hear you also got to enjoy time with your family.

    I am with you with the lull period between Christmas and New Year! But we will all get there.

    Allowing yourself to sit with the difficult feelings is sometimes the most important thing you can do. Along with that is making sure you take care of yourself and do the things you know help you! :3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,327 Wise Owl
    @Laura_tigger82 I agree 100%, prioritising ourselves and our mental health isn't selfish at all, although others may think it is, it's so important to do things that bring you comfort and joy, particularly if this time of the year is a difficult one for you :)

    Exactly! It's so incredibly heart-warming to have so many different support services available to support people through these difficult times :)

    Thank you, and I'm so pleased that you enjoyed your time with your family, that's the greatest present <3

    Yeah! it's such a weird period of time, you feel like you need to be doing things but just feel deflated and unmotivated. I agree, it's often the most healthy way to deal with these feelings, by actually letting them through, it can be easier to cope with them. Yes! I hope you're doing things that bring you comfort and joy at this time, sending you love during this lull period! <3
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 117 The Mix Convert
    ughhhhh dragging myself out for NYE tomorrow even though feel depressed due to personal reasons but hey whatever roll on 2022, thanks for this post <3
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    Hey @gia9720

    I am sorry to hear you are struggling at the moment. If you want to talk about anything, please feel free. We are here with a listening ear and open arms. I hope you have a good New Years' Eve and happy 2022! :3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,327 Wise Owl
    @gia9720 I hope it goes alright, make sure you're comfortable and always remember that you matter more than anyone else's opinions. Sending you lots of love, and remember, we're always here for you whenever you need!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 117 The Mix Convert
    @Laura_tigger82 @Brookee Thanks for your kind messages ... Happy new year both! Hope you both had a lovely evening x
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    I did thanks @gia9720 :3 how was your evening?
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