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Hey guys again so basically I broke up with this girl and she's acting so mean about it and it's affecting me to a point we're I really don't wanna come into school and I'm with someone else now but someones crushing on me big time and I don't feel the same way but don't wanna hurt her feelings do you guys have any advice for me?

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  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 845 Part of The Mix Family
    Hi @awesomeminecraft6789 and welcome to the Mix. 

    I’m sorry to hear this is affecting you so much that you don’t want to come into school. Do you want to talk a little more about what she’s doing that is affecting you? Can you avoid her at all - maybe she is lashing out right now because she might be upset? 

    I’d say it’s always better to be honest so whoever is crushing on you it would be better to let them know you are with someone else and not interested in that way... do you think you could do that? 

    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
  • Lucy307 said:
    Hi @awesomeminecraft6789 and welcome to the Mix. 

    I’m sorry to hear this is affecting you so much that you don’t want to come into school. Do you want to talk a little more about what she’s doing that is affecting you? Can you avoid her at all - maybe she is lashing out right now because she might be upset? 

    I’d say it’s always better to be honest so whoever is crushing on you it would be better to let them know you are with someone else and not interested in that way... do you think you could do that? 

    Yes I think I could it's just I'm not confident in my ability to do most things so I'm always scared and I'm a nice person it just breaks my heart when people be mean to me it makes me feel awful and I get upset easily do that doesn't help but what the girls doing is she says oh your not talking to me what a surprise and that I'm with the girl who's crushing on me when I'm not and the thing is that girl has a new boyfriend so it really doesn't help my case I've told my tas and they sorted it but she won't stop talking about it and I'm scared that I'm eventually gonna do something stupid to myself
  • Tee ATee A Posts: 108 The Mix Convert
    Hey @awesomeminecraft6789 !

    Sorry to hear you are going through this right now, but I am very glad to hear that you have been honest.

    Being honest about how you feel can be extremely difficult but you have done the nicest thing. It sounds like the girl you have broken up with, is having a difficult time with being honest with herself. Sometimes when people get a response they don't like, they become upset but try to hide it with anger. This may be why she is saying nasty things to you.

    If you are struggling to communicate with her face-to-face, maybe you could ask a mutual friend to speak to her on your behalf. This trusted friend could tell her that you're not with the girl that is crushing on you, full stop. 

    As for the girl that is crushing on you, you could try to distance yourself from her. It can be hard to reject people, but I think it's worse to lead them on. Personally, when I struggle to reject someone, I distance myself and if they ask why, then that's a good opportunity to explain yourself. 

    I hope this helps,

    Let us know how you get on!
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