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So what I wanted to talk about was I’m looking after a friend who is in a wheelchair And she has eating tubes and drinking tubes only just started caring for her tonight I’m crying so bad

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Ahhh Lucy that sounds sooo difficult though It must be rewarding to be able to support and help take care of your friend ? Are there other people helping to take care of her?

Liam said:

Ahhh Lucy that sounds sooo difficult though It must be rewarding to be able to support and help take care of your friend ? Are there other people helping to take care of her?

Only me

How are you finding it @Past User ? It sounds like your friend has a lot going on right now. It's too much to expect you to take care of her alone especially as you're only young yourself. Are her parents taking care of her too or are health professionals helping out?

Sounds like quite a responsibility you have there have you had any support or any guidance to help you to support your friend as best as you can? Echoing what Liam said, It sounds like a lot for you to care for her alone! Is there anyone else helping to care for her?

Liam said:

How are you finding it @Past User ? It sounds like your friend has a lot going on right now. It's too much to expect you to take care of her alone especially as you're only young yourself. Are her parents taking care of her too or are health professionals helping out?

Nope I’m the only one

Starlight said:

Sounds like quite a responsibility you have there have you had any support or any guidance to help you to support your friend as best as you can? Echoing what Liam said, It sounds like a lot for you to care for her alone! Is there anyone else helping to care for her?

Nope and nope

Do you mind me asking who was taking care of her before tonight @Past User ?

Oh right what kind of things do you do to care for her? Does she not live with someone who can help her? Must be tough

Where is her support network and how long will you be doing for?

Liam said:

Do you mind me asking who was taking care of her before tonight @Past User ?

She had her parents but her parents aren’t well now

Jellyelephant said:

Oh right what kind of things do you do to care for her? Does she not live with someone who can help her? Must be tough

Nope so has to be me I help her get dressed etc and give her fluids and food though her tubes

Salix_alba_2019 said:

Where is her support network and how long will you be doing for?

She Does not have one and a long time

lucyking200 said:

Liam said:

Do you mind me asking who was taking care of her before tonight @Past User ?

She had her parents but her parents aren’t well now

Oh that’s terrible she must be so stressed. Do both her parents have the same illness? Is it something that will improve or? X

Hey.

That does sount like a lot of responsiblity. But what about your foster family. Arent they helping ? Is it someone theyre fostering? How do you know her? Just thinking Maybe theres someone else would could support her too

This might seem random but what condition/illness does ur friend have? I have a few friends with chronic illness and if I have an idea of what she struggles with I can say what my friends do to help themself cope

Shaunie said:

Hey.

That does sount like a lot of responsiblity. But what about your foster family. Arent they helping ? Is it someone theyre fostering? How do you know her? Just thinking Maybe theres someone else would could support her too

I left my foster family and nope they aren’t and nope I know her as a friend

lucyking200 said:

Shaunie said:

Hey.

That does sount like a lot of responsiblity. But what about your foster family. Arent they helping ? Is it someone theyre fostering? How do you know her? Just thinking Maybe theres someone else would could support her too

I left my foster family and nope they aren’t and nope I know her as a friend

Oh no are you ok? What happened with your foster family? Do you have somewhere safe to stay???

So where are you living now? Sorry for questions just trying to understand more to better support you

Jellyelephant said:

This might seem random but what condition/illness does ur friend have? I have a few friends with chronic illness and if I have an idea of what she struggles with I can say what my friends do to help themself cope

Cerbal palsy

Shaunie said:

So where are you living now? Sorry for questions just trying to understand more to better support you

With friend

lucyking200 said:

Shaunie said:

So where are you living now? Sorry for questions just trying to understand more to better support you

With friend

Oh no I think you should tell your social worker what is happening because they would not want you to leave care to stay with a friend and care for her. You should have someone who will look after you. This seems illegal I hope you will speak to social services or another adult who can help you

Jellyelephant said:

lucyking200 said:

Shaunie said:

Hey.

That does sount like a lot of responsiblity. But what about your foster family. Arent they helping ? Is it someone theyre fostering? How do you know her? Just thinking Maybe theres someone else would could support her too

I left my foster family and nope they aren’t and nope I know her as a friend

Oh no are you ok? What happened with your foster family? Do you have somewhere safe to stay???

Not really just foster family decided not to help anymore I’m staying with friend

Sorry but can I ask, why did you leave the foster family and is your social worker aware. Just making sure your safe, Wish you the best!

Jellyelephant said:

lucyking200 said:

Shaunie said:

So where are you living now? Sorry for questions just trying to understand more to better support you

With friend

Oh no I think you should tell your social worker what is happening because they would not want you to leave care to stay with a friend and care for her. You should have someone who will look after you. This seems illegal I hope you will speak to social services or another adult who can help you

I will speak to my support worker tomorrow

Starlight said:

Sorry but can I ask, why did you leave the foster family and is your social worker aware. Just making sure your safe, Wish you the best!

Because I wanted to care for friend and. Foster family couldn’t look after me anymore I will ring social worker tomorrow when they open

Why couldnt they look after you surely that should be something that is discussed with your social worker? As long as you are safe for now and you make sure you ring your social worker in the morning. Please stay safe

Aw I am worried about you. Surely your foster family haven’t just decided a few days later that they can’t help?? And they would have had to tell ur social worker ?? I feel concerned that you have left care without ur social worker knowing and are now caring for yourself and your friend at the age of 16. That sounds too much stress and responsibility

Starlight said:

Why couldnt they look after you surely that should be something that is discussed with your social worker? As long as you are safe for now and you make sure you ring your social worker in the morning. Please stay safe

Yes I’m fine for now Yep will social worker in morning

Jellyelephant said:

Aw I am worried about you. Surely your foster family haven’t just decided a few days later that they can’t help?? And they would have had to tell ur social worker ?? I feel concerned that you have left care without ur social worker knowing and are now caring for yourself and your friend at the age of 16. That sounds too much stress and responsibility

Nope it’s fine and social worker was closed at the time and I’m 15 I will ring social worker in morning

Oh sorry I didn’t realise because you wrote on your other thread you are 16. Are your friends parents looking after you? I know you said they are ill but wasn’t sure what was happening with them or if they are helping you

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